7 Ways to Help When a Friend is Hurting…

Dear Ginger

 

I am always touched by the messages and comments I receive here on the blog. I can’t tell you how much hearing from you has meant to me, and I am so honored to spend a little part of your day with you!

Recently I have received messages from women who know someone going through a hard time. They want to know how to best help and be encouraging to their hurting friends. I am so blessed to have friends who have been with me through the darkest moments of my life. I could not have made it through those times without their love, support, prayers, hugs, phone calls, and just being there for me. My friends have inspired and lifted me up more than they’ll ever know, and because of them I want to share with you some ways that we can all be there for our friends – even in the rough times. 

 

Reach out and let them know you care.

A phone call, a text message, an email – such easy ways that you can let your friend know that they are on your heart. Even better, a handwritten note is something tangible that they can hold in their hands and know that you are there for them.

 

Don’t pressure them to share details of what they are going through.

Some friends might want to vent or share with you, but others will not. Struggles may be intensely personal, and we need to respect their need for privacy during this time. Follow their lead, and don’t push them to open up more than they are ready to share with you at the moment.

 

Please don’t take offense if they don’t get back with you right away.

When you’re in a dark place, it’s hard to remember to thank or get back with the people who help or check in with you. A quick message from you may be exactly what your friend needed, but sometimes people forget to respond in the stress and busyness of that moment. And that’s okay.

 

Offer to help with something specific.

Sometimes we need to go beyond the generic offer, “Let me know if I can do anything.” Do they need a babysitter for an hour or two? Perhaps taking them a meal would be a huge help. Lend them your favorite comedy or chick flick to lighten the mood. Sometimes having a cup of coffee and talking about anything else is just what the broken heart needs.

 

Keep their story private. Don’t share it with others.

It really is a small world after all, and people can all too easily connect the dots. Be a true friend to them, and don’t talk to others about what was told to you in confidence. Not even in a vague concern or sharing prayer requests sort of way. This is not your story to tell unless you have been given their blessing to share it with others.

 

Go easy on the advice.

Many friends just want to vent or to know that you care. Don’t interject your opinion unless they ask for your advice. Instead, just concentrate on just being there for them.

 

Chocolate.

When in doubt, take her chocolate. Chocolate makes everything better.

 

What about you? ~

Do you have any other tips for our friends? What are some other ways that they can help and encourage their friends who are hurting?

Do you have any other questions for me? I aways really, truly, sincerely love hearing from YOU. Just leave me a comment here or email me at justoneoftheboysblog@gmail.com

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Until next time,

*Hugs*

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What They Don’t Tell You… Parenting Over the Years

What They Don't Tell You - Parenting Over the Years

 

“Mom, what does @$*%!^ mean?”

 

I held a steady poker face to cover the horror that gripped my heart as I listened to the words that my curious fifth grader had overheard at school.

 

Uhhh… Wow… Ummm…

 

I did the best I could to answer his questions, explain why such a word can cause so much hurt, and warn why it would never be acceptable to use it.

 

Later I wrapped my arms around my little man-in-training, and felt him return my goodnight hug.

 

“Thank you for talking to me, Mom. I love you.”

 

I ruffled his hair and sent him to bed before I collapsed back on the couch, mentally and emotionally exhausted. I had reassured him that he could always come to me with his questions, but I was silently cursing the parenting books that I’d read cover-to-cover twelve years ago as I prepared to become a mother. They never mentioned anything like this. 

 

Sure, everyone knows that the first year is going to be rough, and that the terrible twos can get dicey, but no one tells you that parenting just keeps getting harder and harder with each passing birthday party. I’m no longer worried that my little guys will put something in their mouths, stick a chubby little finger into an outlet, or tumble down the stairs. Now I get to worry about swear words, girls, peer pressure, social media, and Middle School.

 

Oh goody.

 

Makes me wish we could go back to when my boys were little and I spent my days just trying to keep them from killing themselves!

 

A dear friend recently gave me a copy of Lisa-Jo Baker’s touching story, Surprised by Motherhood. As I read each chapter her words took me back to those early days of being a mommy, and I started to remember a few surprising things that the What to Expect books left out…

 

You will never sleep again.

Bad dreams, croupy coughs, stubborn fevers, sleepwalking, and burning the midnight oil while you make four dozen school treats all get in the way of sleeping through the night.

 

You’ll discover how selfish you really are.

I love my boys more than life itself, but sometimes I want to eat the last cookie. I’m definitely not a morning person. And I’d rather have a root canal than listen to them explain anything Minecraft.

 

They will eat you out of house and home from now until forever.

Speaking of cookies, and food in general, be prepared for them to eat it all like a plague of locusts devouring everything in sight. I just realized that in a few short years, we will have THREE teenage boys in our house. Hold me.

 

Someday you’ll have THE TALK with your child.

If this one doesn’t put the fear of God in you, nothing will. Looking into their eyes while you explain the science of how babies are made is not for the faint of heart. Your breathing will become rapid and shallow, you will experience dizziness, there will be profuse sweating, and you will speak higher and faster than normal, but try your hardest to postpone your panic attack until after the big talk.

 

I had mistakenly thought that I was prepared for life as a mom. All of those years ago I read up on how to properly care for my baby. I studied swaddling diagrams. I weighed the pros and cons of crying it out vs. nursing on demand. I was a parenting expert before I had kids… And then I became a mother and realized that I didn’t know anything.

 

Those darn What to Expect books forgot to mention several other important things as well…

 

The journey.

Experiencing the world through the eyes of your child is an incredible gift. You get to discover dandelions and ladybugs and puppies and rainbows all over again. The world is such a magical place, if we will only pause long enough to see its beauty again for the first time through their wondering eyes.

 

The pain.

Having a child is like ripping your heart out of your chest and sending it out alone into the world. Their joy is your joy. Their hurts are your hurts. You will want to shield them forever from the pain, injustice, and darkness of this life – but what they really need is for you to take their little hands and guide them through it.

 

The LOVE.

The amount of love that you will feel for the precious gifts who are entrusted to you is undefinable, unmeasurable, and infinitely beyond what you had ever imagined.

 

I wasn’t prepared for this. I wish the books had warned me. But then again, I wouldn’t trade this adventure, and even the surprises along the way, for anything in the world.

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Mama said there’d be days like this…

And the day was going so well…

 

I’m wondering if you would mind helping me with something today?

 

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Take a Little Time ~ Forgiveness

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Happy Monday, Lovelies! I’ve been thinking of you all – and feeling so grateful to be on this journey with you!

 

How was your week? What are some of the ways you have taken a little time for yourself? Did you call a friend? Light a candle? Fix yourself a cup of tea? I’d love to hear all about it!

 

I was a bit vague about one of my goals last week:

  • ~ Finish an unpleasant project that I’ve been meaning to cross off my to-do list. I won’t be able to fully relax until I know that it is over.

 

This is a tough post to write, but I want to share a little more about what I meant…

 

I meet with my ex-husband after every 9 weeks of homeschooling for a progress report/parent-teacher conference. I dread it almost more than anything. It’s not that it’s difficult to write up report cards for our sons. It isn’t – in fact, it’s pretty easy because I keep detailed and organized records of our lesson plans and their grades. The reason that I dread it so much is that…well… My shoulders tense and my eye begins to twitch when I think of sitting across from the person who hurt me in so many ways, and I put it off as long as I can. Then I get even more stressed because life would be so much easier if I would just hurry up and get it over with.

 

I’ve shared with you how I’ve been hurt, how I’ve forgiven, and how I’ve healed – but I need to tell you something:

 

Forgiveness doesn’t equal amnesia.

 

Those memories and wounds are still there… even years later. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse what they did – but it frees you from the chains of anger, fear, and resentment that bound us to that person. Forgiveness allows us to heal. But it still doesn’t make sitting in a coffeeshop with that person a cakewalk. Meeting with someone who has caused me pain will probably never be enjoyable – but the passage of time, giving myself grace, and doing this for our children is slowly making it easier – a little at a time. And this week was no exception.

 

Forgiveness

 

I always breathe a sigh of relief when we finish our meeting, a little bit proud of myself for facing and overcoming something that I had filled me with so much worry just an hour earlier.

 

See, that wasn’t so bad. It was a little easier than last time!

 

My eye stopped twitching, my tummy quit working itself into knots, and I was finally able to relax after it was over. I did it. I crossed it off my list.

 

You might not be in my shoes, but I’m wondering if there are unpleasant things in your life that you put off, too? If so, please take this week to cross it off your to-do list. The weight of it being lifted off your shoulders is such sweet relief.

 

And forgiveness… I’ve shared before how forgiveness isn’t a gift that you’re giving to the other person. It’s a gift that you give to yourself. People ask me if forgiveness is a one-time thing – and I think it’s a specific decision that a person can make one time, but it is also a daily decision to live out that forgiveness in our lives.

 

Forgiveness doesn’t take away everything that happened to you – but it will give you the courage and strength to face what is in front of you. Forgiveness is still the best decision I have ever made, the best gift that I can continue to give myself and our precious boys, and the best gift you can ever give yourself.

 

Just know that you’re not alone on this journey of forgiveness and healing. I’m right there with you and cheering you on the whole way! *Group hug!*

 

Last Week’s Goals ~

 

  • Write down (or take pictures of) THREE things you are grateful for each daySome of the things I was grateful for over the last week:

Quinn’s laughter – makes me smile every time.

Hearing the words, “I’m sorry.” 

Forgiveness.

A good night’s sleep.

Orange juice. Copious amounts of orange juice.

The friendships we have made in our weekly small group. We love the range of ages and phases of life we are all in – but the feeling of community is so sweet! (And check out the pineapple parfaits we had this week. So thankful that they don’t mind being my Guinea pigs when it comes to trying out new recipes!)

pineapple parfaits

 

  • Finish an unpleasant project that I’ve been meaning to cross off my to-do list. I won’t be able to fully relax until I know that it is over.

 

  • Indulge in some quality time with my Beloved! It’s a kid-free weekend, House of Cards is coming back to Netflix, and we have more chapters to read in Love & RespectJoe and I both came down with colds just as the weekend began, so we spent most of our time on the couch snuggling through fevers, watching House of Cards, reading, napping, coughing, drinking orange juice, and blowing our noses. Not super romantic, but I actually enjoyed having that down time with my Beloved! Now that I’m feeling a little more human, I’m ready to attack the coming week!

 

  • Exercise for at least 30 minutes on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. I was pretty good at exercising Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday, but by Friday I was too coughy/sneezy/achy/fevery/miserable to work out. But I think I lost a couple of pounds from pretty much only eating grapefruit over the weekend. There had to be a silver lining somewhere!

 

  • Measure out and drink 60 oz. of water each day, and a serving of coconut water to keep my body hydrated. I probably drank my weight in tea over the weekend. I couldn’t stomach the thought of drinking chocolate coconut water over the last few days, so I’ll probably double up on that this week to make sure I’m staying hydrated.

 

 

This Week’s Goals ~

 

Our Group Goal ~

  • ~ Let’s take care of our nails this week! Trim, file, push back cuticles… Buff, polish, apply Jams… Whatever floats your boat! And I’d love to see them!

 

For My Head ~

  • ~ Now that my broken finger is mostly pain-free, get back to playing the piano every day (even if it’s only for a few minutes).

 

For My Heart ~

  • ~ Push myself outside my comfort zone and share a video blog with you!

 

For My Body ~

  • ~ Exercise for at least 30 minutes on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.

 

For My Family ~

  • ~ Family Game/Puzzle Night! What are some of your favorite games to play as a family?

 

 

Will You Join Me? ~

 

I’m curious – as I’ve been thinking about all the things that have kept me from taking better care of myself, I’m wondering – What things are keeping you from taking a little time for you? Kids? Work? Crazy schedule? Are you like me and forgot how to take care of yourself?

One of the hardest parts of taking a little time for myself has always been coming up with ideas for how to take care of me. That’s why I’ve come up with a list of 101 FREE (or nearly free) Ways to Take a Little Time for US! And I’d be thrilled to send it to you! Subscribe to the free email updates from Just One of the Boys – just enter your name and email address below -and I’ll send you your FREE copy!

 

101 Ways

 

I’ll keep sharing even more of my progress on Facebook and Instagram this week with the hashtag #takealittletime, and I’d love it if you joined me. It would be way more fun with you! Let’s find a second to actually take a minute, SIT DOWN today, and just breathe. And don’t forget to write out three things you are grateful for today! You can even share them here in the comments or tag me in your photos! Let’s put our health, our hearts, and our heads back on the to-do list – and let’s start taking better care of ourselves today!

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

 

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Mom’s Got Mail! How a Family Mailbox Saved My Sanity

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**Today I am honored to be guest posting over at my friend Tanya‘s blog – Mom’s Small Victories! I am sharing how a simple thing has saved my sanity in a house of boys!**

 

“Why do you have a mailbox in your kitchen?”

 

This question from surprised friends always brings a smile to my face when people come to our house.

 

Oh, that? Let me tell you about our family mailbox…

 

One day I’d had it up to *HERE* with the tattling, fighting, and brotherly pestering that was going on in our house. As much as I wanted them to learn how to work out their grievances amongst themselves, I also knew that sometimes a mom has to step in to settle things. The problem comes when I can’t stop what I’m doing  – often helping someone with fractions, fixing dinner, or making a phone call – every single time there was a LEGO or light saber dispute.

 

What I needed was a personal secretary, but since that wasn’t in the family budget, I had to come up with something else.

 

**To read the rest of how a mailbox has changed our lives – just head over to Mom’s Small Victories! Can’t wait to see you there!**

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What I’m Into ~ February 2015 Edition

What I'm Into February 2015 Edition

It’s that time again! Time to link up with the lovely Leigh Kramer and dish about books, movies, and so much more of what we’ve been into in February!

 

What I’ve Been Into ~

Time with friends.

A friend and I went to see Nadia Bolz-Weber speak at Bethanny College this month!

I also had coffee with a treasured friend recently, and came away with my heart so encouraged.

And I enjoyed a monthly dinner with a group of women that have become such gifts in my life. We are memorizing the first chapter of James together as a group – and check out the cute bookmarks our friend Ashley made to help us during the month!

Bible Verses

 

Copper mugs.

My Beloved gave me a beautiful set of copper mugs for Valentine’s Day. Copper. It’s my love language. And so are Girl Scout cookies.

copper mug

 

Taking better care of myself.

I came up with a list of 101 ways to take a little time for ourselves – and each week I am focusing on 5 simple and free (or nearly free) ways that I can do just that. It’s helping me in so many ways!

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101 Ways

 

Counting my blessings.

I recently began writing down or taking pictures of three things I am grateful for throughout the day. I love my little Gratefulness journal from my friend in Zambia!

African journal

 

What I’ve Been Reading ~

Bird by Bird, by Anne Lamott – Perfection. Enough said.

Books that Stick ~ Bird by Bird

 

The Ship of Brides, by Jojo Moyes – I’ll be finishing this one up over the weekend. I didn’t know much about the war brides from Australia in WWII before reading this story. Me Before You is still my favorite book by Jojo Moyes, but I still enjoyed this one!

 

Love and Respect, by Emerson Eggerichs – My Beloved and I have been reading this aloud to each other, and it has been so helpful to understand how each of us perceives love from one another!

 

Shoal of Time, by Gavan Daws – I’ve learned way more about Hawaiian history than I ever thought possible. The stories and the legends about these beautiful islands are captivating.

 

The Betrayal of Liliuokalani: Last Queen of Hawaii, by Helena Allen – Queen Liliuokalani has become one of my heroes. She led a fascinating life, and I wish that more people knew about this incredible lady!

 

An Altar in the World: A Geography of Faith, by Barbara Brown Taylor – This was my first Barbara Brown Taylor book, and I enjoyed the reverent and intentional look at faith as I read it each morning during my quiet time.

 

Neil Patrick Harris: Choose Your Own Autobiography, by Neil Patrick Harris – I’ve been a fan of NPH for a long time, and his “choose your own adventure” approach to writing his memoir was refreshing and so entertaining!

 

Reading in March ~

Surprised by Motherhood, by Lisa-Jo Baker – This one has been on my radar for quite a while. I put out a plea on Facebook to see if any local friends had it to borrow, and people ended up suspecting that I was pregnant! Yikes!

 

The Handmaid’s Tale, by Margaret Atwood – I can’t believe that I’ve never read Margaret Atwood, but I recently watched her interview with Medium Foreword, and decided that I had to remedy that in March!

 

On Writing, by Stephen King – I read this back in 2013, but decided that it was time for a refresher. I am continuing my quest to do my “homework” each month and read/learn more about writing.

 

Fooling Houdini, by Alex Stone – I’ve always been curious about magic, and this book is supposed to reveal how we see/don’t see the tricks they are doing right under our nose.

 

The Maltese Falcon, by Dashiell Hammett – I saw my friend Andrea reading this a few weeks ago and it piqued my interest!

 

Smoke Gets in Your Eyes, by Caitlin Doughty – I’ve seen this pop up on many to-read lists recently, and it was finally my turn on the library hold list!

 

This is the Story of a Happy Marriage, by Ann Patchett – Another story that has been on my radar for a while…

 

I’ll Drink to That, by Betty Halbreich – Shauna Niequest recommended this in a recent blog post, and I was excited to see it available at our library!

 

Screen Time ~

My Beloved and I watched the latest installment of The Hobbit (which I thought was so-so), The Imitation Game (Excellent!), and The Theory of Everything (Fantastic!).

We watched the Parks & Rec finale last night. *sniff*  I fell asleep for a few minutes and missed Rashida Jones and Rob Lowe, so I’ll be going back to watch that part!

Anybody else excited for the return of House of Cards this weekend?!

I mentioned earlier that I discovered Kelly Corrigan’s interview series Medium Foreword last week, and I quickly went through the few videos they have so far: B.J. Novak, Margaret Atwood, Jason Segel, Mary Roach, and Anne Lamott. I read somewhere that an interview with Nicholas Kristof is coming up soon. That should be good!

 

What About You? ~

What have you been into this month? Read any good books? Watched a must-see movie? Anything I should check out on Netflix once we’ve devoured all of the new House of Cards season? I’d love to hear all about it!

 

Wishing you an exquisite month of March,

~ Ginger

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Take a Little Time ~ Take 7

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Happy Monday er, uh, Tuesday! I dozed off last night on the couch while I was working on this post. I’ve been so tired recently after having some late nights, so I think I need to make more of an effort to get myself to bed earlier!

 

How’d you do on your goals last week? Did you write down things you are grateful for?

 

I really liked taking time to think about the things I’m grateful for every day! I started out writing them down in my African journal each morning, but then I decided to change it up a little bit. One day I decided to be aware of the things that stick out to me during the day – and take photos of them instead. I loved pausing for just a few seconds here and there throughout my day and just soaking in what I was grateful for in that moment.

 

I shared this photo on Instagram and Facebook – I am so grateful for this bookworm in soccer jammies and crazy bedhead! I love watching his love of books grow each day. “Just one more chapter, Mom! Please?!”

Grateful - Aiden reading

 

I am also grateful for the time each day that I get to sit down with our littlest bookworm as he reads aloud to me. I love getting to experience the magic of Shel Silverstein and other authors through their little eyes for the first time over and over again!

Grateful - Quinn reading

 

And while I was contemplating other things that I was grateful for, I came across my “Gratefulness Journal” which is from Zambia. I got it last fall from my friend Sara who is living in Zambia and has a heart for helping boys in African prisons.

 

African journal

 

Looking at my journal made me so grateful for friendship. I have so many wonderful friends devoting their lives to helping others…

Sara is in Zambia, Will is working with orphans in Ukraine, Vanessa is in Peru, Crystal is working with a village in South Africa, Katie started a work in Haiti, Jennifer is working in my hometown, Alysha is encouraging broken hearts after a devastating loss, and there are so many others… I am inspired and challenged by these people every day just by having them in my life – for which I am beyond grateful!

 

 

Last Week’s Goals ~

 

  • ~ Write down three things we are grateful for each day.

 

  • ~ WRITE. Just spend time writing – whether it is journaling or blogging. I can process life, wounds heal, and creativity grows when I set aside time to write out what is on my heart.  I spent quite a bit of time last week journaling and processing through things that were on my heart, and finished a guest post that I’ll tell you more about soon. I also fixed myself a giant stein of Earl Grey tea and wrote out a list of topics I’d love to share on the blog in the future. 

Grateful - tea in the evenings

 

 

  • ~ Soak up time with my girlfriends when we have our monthly dinner this weekA few girls were under the weather, but I still LOVED sitting down and having dinner with my friends! We memorized James 1:1-4 over the last month, and now we are moving on to the next four verses. I’m finding that it’s way more enjoyable to work on Scripture memory with friends! And check out the cute bookmarks my friend Ashley made to help us throughout the month!

Bible Verses

 

  • ~ Measure out 60 oz. of water to drink each day. I’m pretty happy that I was able to get through my water every day except one. Baby steps! It really is SO much easier to remember my water if I measure it out!

Glass pitcher

 

copper mug

 

  • ~ Take care of my nails – file, apply cuticle balm, and polish them a pretty color. I didn’t get around to polishing them. Bummer!

 

 

This Week’s Goals ~

 

I loved this new way of practicing gratitude so much that I want to do it again!

 

Weekly Group Goal ~

  • ~ Write down (or take pictures of) THREE things you are grateful for each day!

 

For My Head ~

  • ~ Finish an unpleasant project that I’ve been meaning to cross off my to-do list. I won’t be able to fully relax until I know that it is over.

 

For My Heart ~

  • ~ Indulge in some quality time with my Beloved! It’s a kid-free weekend, House of Cards is coming back to Netflix, and we have more chapters to read in Love & Respect!

 

For My Body ~

  • ~ Exercise for at least 30 minutes on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.
  • ~ Measure out and drink 60 oz. of water each day, and a serving of coconut water to keep my body hydrated.

 

Will You Join Me? ~

 

I’m curious – as I’ve been thinking about all the things that have kept me from taking better care of myself, I’m wondering – What things are keeping you from taking a little time for you? Kids? Work? Crazy schedule? Are you like me and forgot how to take care of yourself?

One of the hardest parts of taking a little time for myself has always been coming up with ideas for how to take care of me. That’s why I’ve come up with a list of 101 FREE (or nearly free) Ways to Take a Little Time for US! And I’d be thrilled to send it to you! Subscribe to the free email updates from Just One of the Boys – just enter your name and email address below -and I’ll send you your FREE copy!

 

101 Ways

 

I’ll keep sharing even more of my progress on Facebook and Instagram this week with the hashtag #takealittletime, and I’d love it if you joined me. It would be way more fun with you! Let’s find a second to actually take a minute, SIT DOWN today, and just breathe. And don’t forget to write out three things you are grateful for today! You can even share them here in the comments or tag me in your photos! Let’s put our health, our hearts, and our heads back on the to-do list – and let’s start taking better care of ourselves today!

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

 

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Take a Little Time ~ Take 6

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Did anyone else have a rough week? I won’t go into all the ugly details, but I sure felt as though I had been through the wringer! Family stuff, kiddos, blogging issues… It all adds up to a week where I didn’t take very good care of myself. But that changed over the weekend. I spent treasured time with friends, reconnected with my Beloved, rested, and laughed. It was just what this girl needed!

It’s a new week, and I’m ready to get back on track. How about you?

 

Last Week’s Goals ~

  • ~ Measure out and drink 60 oz. (or your goal) of water each day.
  • ~ Continue memorizing James 1:1-4 with my group of friends
  • ~ Exercise at least 5 times this week.
  • Continue to read Love & Respect with my Beloved.
  • ~ Write down three things I’m grateful for every day.

 

This Week’s Goals ~

I’m going try cutting my weekly list in half again, and REALLY focus on these five goals.

 

Weekly Group Goal:

  • ~ Write down three things we are grateful for each day.

 

For My Head ~

  • ~ WRITE. Just spend time writing – whether it is journaling or blogging. I can process life, wounds heal, and creativity grows when I set aside time to write out what is on my heart.

 

For My Heart ~

  • ~ Soak up time with my girlfriends when we have our monthly dinner this week.

 

For My Body ~

  • ~ Measure out 60 oz. of water to drink each day.
  • ~ Take care of my nails – file, apply cuticle balm, and polish them a pretty color.

 

Will You Join Me? ~

 

I’m curious – as I’ve been thinking about all the things that have kept me from taking better care of myself, I’m wondering – What things are keeping you from taking a little time for you? Kids? Work? Crazy schedule? Are you like me and forgot how to take care of yourself?

One of the hardest parts of taking a little time for myself has always been coming up with ideas for how to take care of me. That’s why I’ve come up with a list of 101 FREE (or nearly free) Ways to Take a Little Time for US! And I’d be thrilled to send it to you! Subscribe to the free email updates from Just One of the Boys – just enter your name and email address below -and I’ll send you your FREE copy!

 

101 Ways

 

I’ll keep sharing even more of my progress on Facebook and Instagram this week, and I’d love it if you joined me. It would be way more fun with you! Let’s find a second to actually take a minute, SIT DOWN today, and just breathe. And don’t forget to write out three things you are grateful for today! You can even share them here in the comments! Let’s put our health, our hearts, and our heads back on the to-do list – and let’s start taking better care of ourselves today!

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

 

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Take a Little Time ~ Take 5

Take a Little Time for You! header

 

Happy Tuesday, Friend! I’m sorry to be a day late with this post! I was working on it last night while snuggling with my little guy on the Story Chair, and apparently we both fell asleep!

 

Zzzzz....

 

Anyway.

So… I was flat on my back for a few days last week with a nasty tummy bug.

I’ll spare you the details, but it wasn’t pretty.

But because I had a little downtime, I was able to rethink how I make goals for myself.

 

I think it’s time for a makeover. A goal makeover.

 

One of the things I’ve been contemplating is identifying some of the factors of why it is so difficult to find time for ourselves.

Let’s see…

  • Kids
  • Work
  • Blogging
  • Housework
  • Spouse
  • School
  • Crazy schedules
  • Not valuing ourselves
  • Forgetting how to take care of ourselves

Please tell me I’m not alone in this… Does this sound anything like your own house, too?

I also realized that I’m a bit of an overachiever. I set goals that are pretty high and not always attainable, and then I’m hard on myself when I don’t reach those goals. I think I need to scale back a little on these goals – and be more intentional about what I am doing and why I am doing it. What is really going to feed my soul this week? What is going to help me to really take a little time for myself?

I also wanted to see if y’all would be willing to join me in a weekly GROUP goal? We all have our own things that we hope to cross off our personal to-do lists for the week, but I thought it would be fun if we worked together to concentrate on one main goal! How does that sound?

Before we get started on this week’s goals, let’s look back at the old ones…

 

Last Week’s Goals ~

 

  • ~ Continue to drink 60 oz. of water each day, along with coconut water once or twice this week.
  • ~ Work out 5 times this week for at least 10 minutes each day.
  • ~ Remove my old polish and apply new polish to my toes.
  • ~ Memorize. Keep working on James 1:1-4 with my group of friends.
  • ~ Spend some time outside enjoying the gorgeous (unJanuary-like) weather we’re expecting this week!
  • ~ Continue tackling that one project I’ve been putting off.
  • ~ Take multivitamins each morning.
  • ~ Put on real clothes during the week and stay away from my shlumpy sweats or workout clothes unless I’m actually working out.
  • ~ Do at least ONE little thing for myself each day… just because!
  • ~ Continue to read Love & Respect with my Beloved.

 

Our Weekly Group Goal ~

 

  • ~ Measure out and drink 60 oz. (or your goal) of water each day.

 

That’s it! I’ve gathered from the comments and messages that I’ve received, that drinking enough water is a big hurdle for many of us, so let’s do it together! Let’s do it as a team!

 

Personal Weekly Goals ~

 

I want to reduce the number of my weekly goals into an easier number to tackle. AND I want to break them down into categories so I know not only what my goals are, but why I’m doing them.

 

FOR MY HEAD ~

Continue memorizing James 1:1-4 with my group of friends

FOR MY HEART ~

Exercise at least 5 times this week.

FOR MY FAMILY ~

Continue to read Love & Respect with my Beloved.

FOR MY SELF ~

Write down three things I’m grateful for every day.

 

Will You Join Me? ~

 

I’m curious – as I’ve been thinking about all the things that have kept me from taking better care of myself, I’m wondering – What things are keeping you from taking a little time for you? Kids? Work? Crazy schedule? Are you like me and forgot how to take care of yourself?

One of the hardest parts of taking a little time for myself has always been coming up with ideas for how to take care of me. That’s why I’ve come up with a list of 101 FREE (or nearly free) Ways to Take a Little Time for US! And I’d be thrilled to send it to you! Subscribe to the free email updates from Just One of the Boys – just enter your name and email address below -and I’ll send you your FREE copy!

 

101 Ways

 

I’ll keep sharing even more of my progress on Facebook and Instagram this week, and I’d love it if you joined me. It would be way more fun with you! Let’s find a second to actually take a minute, SIT DOWN today, and just breathe. And don’t forget to drink water! Let’s put our health, our hearts, and our heads back on the to-do list – and let’s start taking better care of ourselves today!

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

 

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Psssst… It’s Time for a GIVEAWAY!!!

SuPURSE Bowl

 

 

“These are a few of my favorite things…”

I shared earlier this weekend that we’ve been having a blast over on Facebook where I’ve been sharing some of my favorite things with YOU in giveaways! And let’s do it again today!

Just head over to the Just One of the Boys FACEBOOK PAGE during the Super Bowl for a chance to win a cute new purse for spring! And on top of that, it’s from one of my favorite places – JOYN! I absolutely love their story and their mission:

 

JOYN: FASHIONING BETTER LIVES

JOYN takes artisans living in poverty and joins them with the thriving fashion world.
Each step of our process is done by hand—creating more jobs, bringing more joy, and connecting more artisans with YOU.

 

It all started when I told my friend Ashley that I loved her bag – and wanted to know where she found it. She told me about JOYN, and the rest was history. I have two bags myself, one I use as a spring/summer purse and the other is when I just need an extra bag to carry library books, extra papers, or even granola bars and water bottles for my guys.

I love both of mine so much that I wanted to spread the love and give away a brand new JOYN bag to you! So today I am giving away a brand new JOYN handbag! It’s so pretty – and has such a wonderful story behind it!

 

JOYN purse

 

 

 

JOYN Purse 2

 

Join us on Facebook during the big game for an easy way to enter the fun! Can’t wait to see you there!

Hugs,

~ G

 

P.S. Full disclosure – I bought this purse on my own. I don’t know anyone at JOYN and I’m pretty sure they don’t know I exist, but I love these bags and the heart behind them so much that I want to share it with you – my friends!

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I’m Ginger ~

I'm a wife to my Beloved, mom of three boys, bookworm, survivor of a broken heart, and Kansas Girl. It is my desire to encourage you. No matter what storm you're going through right now, you are not alone. I promise.

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MY GIFT TO YOU!