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My Surprising Week With Beautycounter

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Last week I had the incredible opportunity to try out the high-end Beautycounter skin care line. My sweet friend Jan recently became a Beautycounter consultant, and I went to her kick-off event where I learned all sorts of disturbing things about the cosmetic industry.

I learned that the European Union has much stricter laws for beauty manufacturers than we do for our products sold here in America. They have banned around 1300 ingredients from their beauty products. Here in the U.S. we’ve banned only ELEVEN ingredients. Did you know that the last time the federal government passed a law regulating cosmetics, this guy was President?

 

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Yep, that’s Franklin Delano Roosevelt. The products (and chemicals) we apply to our face and bodies haven’t been regulated since 1938 – that’s during the Great Depression, and before my own grandmother started wearing makeup! Even though this particular info is brand new to me, I’ve been gradually researching and replacing my makeup and body care with more natural products over the last couple of years. The EWG website is a great way to look up the products you use every day and see how their ingredients score with concerns such as overall hazard, cancer, developmental & reproductive toxicity, allergies & immunotoxicity, and other high concerns.

 

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I’ve had good luck with oil cleansing my face at night, and more recently I’ve switched to using Norwex facial cloths to remove my makeup at bedtime. My new routine has worked just fine, but I was thrilled when my lovely friend Jan asked me to try out a Beautycounter line of skin-care products! I’ve read wonderful things about Beautycounter from the Whoorl blog, and I was excited to try them out!

 

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My ten-year-old son tried out the kids shampoo one day, and since he is especially averse to getting clean I thought he would be a good judge of the shampoo! (What is it about little boys and not wanting to shower?!)

Aiden came out of the shower with his towel-dried mop of hair, and told me what he thought. His verdict: It smelled like lemons, and it made his hair feel fluffy!

I double-checked with him, and he meant both as good things. As a growing tween boy, he doesn’t like products that smell girly – and this one passed the test.

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I had already started using the Beautycounter Countertime skin-care line on my face, and was loving it! It didn’t have a heavy fragrance, but it was more like a fruity essence – like walking past a fruit stand at a farmer’s market. Each morning and night I felt so pampered applying the different products to my face, neck, and décolletage. It was heavenly.

 

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Wednesday night – Felt like I was at the spa. Lovely.

Thursday morning – My Beloved said my face smelled nice. Amazing.

Thursday night – Felt positively spoiled and noticed smaller pores. Awesome.

Friday morning – A friend said I was glowing. Incredible.

Friday night – Reduced dark circles around my eyes. Also felt a slight itching near my jawline, but it was hardly noticeable. Meh.

Saturday morning – I woke up to a burning, bright red rash all over my face – and spreading down my neck. Uh-oh.

 

Cue the disappointing womp-womp sound effect – and lots of itching. I was so bummed that my body had rejected all the pampering I had given it over the week. My Beautycounter friend Jan graciously offered to help however she could – even to help me see a dermatologist. I frantically texted my sister-in-law who happens to be an aesthetician. I knew she could help me! She instructed me to apply cold compresses – and that helped to ease the burning quite a bit. Then I took Benadryl & ibuprofen, applied hydrocortisone cream, and didn’t wear much in the way of makeup for several days.

 

My face was still pretty raw on Sunday, so I stayed home from church and only went in for a pre-Kenya trip meeting in the afternoon. I know it was vain of me, but I just didn’t want to be out and about with my face on fire.

The next day things had started to subside a little, and my face gradually calmed down over the rest of the week. I kept up the routine of icing down my face when I needed it, using hydrocortisone cream, and staying away from anything other than mascara. As I’m writing this, it has now been just over a week, and I only have a tiny bit of redness left on my cheeks. Muuuuuuch better.

 

Onto the good part – I really have loved the brand new Beautycounter mascara that I tried as well! There aren’t many good, natural, “green” mascaras out there on the market. I have been using one by Perfekt, and I didn’t have any complaints, but I was excited to compare it to Beautycounter’s version!

 

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Whereas Perfekt gave me thicker, fuller, plumber lashes, Beautycounter gave me a boost in length. I have short, stumpy lashes – so I loved the va-va-va-voom factor of longer lashes! No crazy, spider-like clumping. No flaking. And the only smudging was one day when my springtime allergies (ugh…Kansas!) were flaring up, I had a fit of sneezing several times in a row with my eyes watering. When I looked in the mirror, I had a slight smudging underneath my lower lashes – but that happens with pretty much any mascara that I try. One quick swipe, and the smudge was gone.

It doesn’t appear to be technically waterproof, but it stays on really well. I had some trouble removing it with just the Beautycounter products, but when I switched back to using my trusty Norwex cloths at night, the mascara came off like a dream.

 

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My gracious friend felt awful that my face had broken out, and I felt so awful that I didn’t have a better review for my friend and the Beautycounter line. Jan wanted me to go ahead with the review so anyone else who is interested in trying out Beautycounter knows to sample the line somewhere other than your face first – like the inside of your elbow or under your jawline (near your ear). If your body doesn’t react after a few days – feel free to try it on your face! So many people have glowing reviews of this very same Countertime skin-care line, and I’m sure many of you would LOVE it. I just love her willingness for transparency and an honest review of the items she let me try!

If you do ever try out a product that doesn’t agree with your skin, remember my sister-in-laws advice:

  • apply cold compresses
  • take some ibuprofen
  • and let your skin breathe while it heals

 

I plan to continue my quest to find better, more natural products for my family and myself, but next time I’ll be a little more careful about testing them out first!

If you have any Beautycounter questions for my gracious friend Jan, you can find her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Periscope! Please don’t hesitate to seek her out to learn more about the chemicals in your own cosmetics, find out about the current push for more product regulation, or if you want to try any of the Beautycounter line!

How about you? Have you had a good (or bad) experience with Beautycounter or other more natural beauty products? I’d love to hear all about it!

*Hugs*

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When You Feel Alone – Part 2 – When His Words Break Your Heart…

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Dearest Friend,

I can see the hurt in your eyes as you try so hard to be strong. I can hear you convincing yourself and others that everything is okay. I watch you hiding behind the mask of having it all together, when you really feel helpless and with no way out. I know that you feel invisible. I know that you wouldn’t dream of speaking up, but please know that you are not alone in this. I see you because I see myself in you…

 

I love you, but…

I never said that…

You’re crazy. I never did that to you…

You must be remembering it wrong…

 

You brace for the words you know are coming as he embarrasses you in public again. He must not realize how much it stings. He’s only teasing. You take things too seriously, he tells you. You feel yourself harden as layer after layer of his words threaten to squeeze the life out of your once tender heart.

 

You try to explain it all away – He doesn’t mean to be so critical. He just had a hard day. He’s under so much stress. If you hadn’t been so dumb. If you hadn’t messed up.

 

You try so hard, but somehow he knows just what to say to make you feel increasingly small.

 

 

It wasn’t always like this. Your mind drifts back to before – when it all began. Back when he first noticed you. Back when he showered you with attention. Back when he couldn’t get enough of you.

 

Being pursued was all so exciting in the beginning. You finally meant something to somebody. He said that you were the prettiest. The kindest. The sexiest. The smartest. The best at everything. You had wanted to take things slow, but things spun out of control. He had this urgency about your relationship – almost as if he were afraid that you’d slip away. You almost felt smothered in his affection, but this had to be love, right? This is what you’d been waiting for all your life.

 

You’re not quite sure how it happened. One day, when you were completely his – when you had fallen under his spell – something changed. A sharp word. A rolling of his eyes. Something was your fault. You were hurt by a joke he made about you to his friends. He said he didn’t mean it. You are too sensitive, he told you

 

Things escalated so gradually, and you’re not sure how you ended up here. You had found your worth in him, but now you feel like nothing outside of your relationship with him. You’re a grown woman, but in an instant he can make you feel like a small child. There is a sense of security in him. It used to be that he needed you, but now you need him. It kills you when he shuts you out. You just want to make him happy. You try so hard to earn his love and approval once more – but it just doesn’t come.

 

You get blamed more and more, and you rationalize to yourself and others how he treats you. It seems like you’re always explaining or making excuses for him, but for some reason you are the one who ends up feeling guilty. You start to wonder if you are going crazy, if this is all your fault…

 

Oh, how I wish I could gather you up in the warmest of hugs right now. I would make us cups of tea, and I would ask you to sit and talk with me. There’s something I want to tell you. Sweet friend, you are not crazy. Absolutely none of this is your fault. You have loved, trusted, and believed in this man. You gave him everything, and have received nothing in return. I wish I could help you see that you have given him your whole heart, your self-worth, and your life – but now you can take them back. You are so precious, and you DO deserve to be treated better than this life he has cultivated and has controlled around you.

 

I know that it seems so strange to even think about, but the first step in healing your bruised and broken heart is recognizing what it really is… Verbal abuse. Does this story resonate with you? Please take some time to really think about it. Once this sinks in, it feels as if a blindfold has been lifted from your life. You no longer have to accept the words he throws at you. Your eyes can finally be open to the truth.

 

“Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” ~ John 8:32

 

It doesn’t have to be this way. You can find healing, acceptance, and your joy in life again. If any of this resonates with you, I beg of you to find someone you can talk to and who can hold your hand as you walk through this journey. I still have so much healing and growing to do, but I could not have come this far in my life without my counselor. She was truly a major key in me finding my voice and becoming who I am today. If you need any help finding a counselor, please READ THIS POST. I also could not have done it without the support of my close family and friends. Please open up to someone whom you trust and let them help you through this.

 

And I can’t stress this enough – if you are in a relationship where someone is hurting you physically or sexually, PLEASE SEEK SAFETY. Chances are that if those are happening to you, then you can relate to the other stories, too. I beg of you to take your children and find a shelter or a safe house where you can get help. Call the police – they are here to protect you, but they can’t help if you don’t go to them. It doesn’t matter what he said in the past. If it has happened once, studies show that it will happen again – and I just can’t bear the thought of one of you precious friends getting hurt again… or worse.

 

Would you please do something for me? If you know someone who is hurting and could be encouraged by this post, would you please share it with them? There is nothing I want more than to come alongside them and let them know that there really is hope.

 

If there is one thing that I may to leave you with – please know that even though not many people talk about these parts of our stories, there are so many of us on this journey together. Please don’t be afraid to reach out. You can find me on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest. You can also email me at justoneoftheboysblog@gmail.com.

You are loved. You are seen. And you are not alone.

*Hugs*

 

More in this series:

When You Feel Alone

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When You Feel Alone…

When You Feel Alone (4)

 

Dearest Friend,

 

I can see the hurt in your eyes as you try so hard to be strong. I can hear you convincing yourself and others that everything is okay. I watch you hiding behind the mask of having it all together, when you really feel helpless and with no way out. I know that you feel invisible. I know that you wouldn’t dream of speaking up, but please know that you are not alone in this. I see you because I see myself in you…

 

 

I love you, but…

I never said that…

You’re crazy. I never did that to you…

You must be remembering it wrong…

 

You brace for the words you know are coming as he embarrasses you in public again. He must not realize how much it stings. He’s only teasing. You take things too seriously, he tells you. You feel yourself harden as layer after layer of his words threaten to squeeze the life out of your once tender heart.

 

You try to explain it all away – He doesn’t mean to be so critical. He just had a hard day. He’s under so much stress. If you hadn’t been so dumb. If you hadn’t messed up.

 

You try so hard, but somehow he knows just what to say to make you feel increasingly small.

 

 

Nothing is ever good enough. Life with him means walking on eggshells. You try so hard to please him, but you find yourself always coming up short. You try to brush it off when you’re with others, always covering and making excuses for him. He’s just particular. He works so hard. You’ll try harder.

 

So much of your life is wrapped up in him. You feel like you don’t deserve him or the life he’s given you. You don’t remember what life was like without him.

 

You’ve never done anything even remotely untrustworthy, but he seems to be jealous for no reason. It’s like he doesn’t trust you. He’s just being protective, you tell yourself. You always feel like you’ve done something wrong, but you’re not even sure what it is that you feel guilty about anymore.

 

 

He seemed so eager to meet your friends and family in the beginning, almost desperate to impress them. You’re not quite sure how it happened, but gradually things have changed. He says they’re trying to drive a wedge between you. They just don’t understand him like you do. You feel so torn. Of course you love him, but you’re starting to feel smothered and you’d give anything for just a tiny breath of air.

 

When you do get out of the house, it feels like he’s checking up on you. You don’t want to hurt his feelings or make him angry, but why can’t you have just this little bit of time for yourself? You explain it away to your friends – He’s just being protective. He just misses you. But when you get home, you will still feel guilty. The next time your friends invite you out, you might say no. It’s just not worth it.

 

 

You feel your cheeks burn as you ask him for money. He tells you where and when you can go shopping, and even checks your receipts when you come home. He says he’s making sure you aren’t wasting money.

 

You feel guilty for even questioning him, but it just doesn’t make sense. You thought the two of you would be a team, but now you can’t shake this horrible feeling that you’re more like a doormat than a partner.

 

Your new debit card never came in the mail, so you stay home most of the week to limit your spending. Later, you find your card in a stack of mail on his desk. Tears sting in your eyes as you realize that it has been here all this time. Maybe he forgot about it. Maybe not. Feeling helpless, you put it back on his desk. It’s not worth the fight to bring it up.

 

 

You don’t even want to bother with dressing up today. You’re really tired of his questions when you put on makeup or perfume. You just want to feel a little better about yourself, but he asks who you’re trying to impress. He says you don’t need makeup, so maybe you won’t even bother with it.

 

You gaze at the clothes in the back of your closet – the ones he won’t let you wear. You would love to feel pretty and stylish again, but now it doesn’t feel like you even have a style.

 

You want to treat yourself to a much-needed haircut, but he doesn’t want you to cut it. He says you get sassy with shorter hair. You’d like to cut it enough to make it easier to fix in the mornings, but that might rock the boat too much. Maybe you’ll just stick with a ponytail.

 

 

You thought things would be different. You don’t like going to church alone, but you wish he’d stop making hurtful comments. You hate feeling like you have to balance your relationship with him and your faith. This is important to you. Why can’t he understand that?

 

He found a way to use Scripture to make you feel beneath him. You work so hard to obey and be a good Christian wife, but you never measure up.

 

Or maybe he won’t let you go to church at all.

 

 

He said he was sorry… You gently run your finger over the bruise. He said he didn’t mean to. He promised it would never happen again…

 

 

You look at the closed door. You’ve slowly put the pieces together. Hurt and angry tears threaten to fall as you feel crushed by more overwhelming waves of guilt. You’re not enough for him. Not pretty enough. Not sexy enough. It’s just a guy thing. You hate it – all of those images invading his eyes and your marriage. You think to yourself, At least he’s not cheating on me… But you feel your heart break a little more each time.

 

 

Does he even hear you say no? Does he see the tears falling down your cheeks? Does he even care?

 

You long to feel safe – to be held tenderly, and not held down. To be caressed, and not fondled. To make love, and not forced. The dark, far away look in his eyes says that he doesn’t really see you. You squeeze your eyes closed, shutting out the world around you, and numbing yourself to what is happening. Agonizingly, you wait in the darkness for it to be over.

 

Frightened, your mind races as you roll over and wait for him to fall asleep. This isn’t how it was supposed to be. You feel dirty. Used. Betrayed in the deepest level of your being. Something begins to form in the back of your mind, but you force it away before you can say it. It’s your husband. Not a stranger in a dark alley. It can’t be… Can it?

 

You watch as he battles his demons. You pick him up when he falls. You drag him to bed to sleep it off. Once again you’ll make excuses to cover for him. You’ve tried to get him the help he needs, but nothing seems to stick. He needs you. You’re afraid of what he’ll do if you ever leave…

 

If any part of this is your story, Precious Friend, I want so much to give you a big hug and tell you that you don’t have to walk this journey alone. If any of these resonate in your own life, I wish that you will seek out someone to talk to – someone who can hold your hand and guide you through it. I still have so much healing and growing to do, but I could not have come this far in my life without my counselor. She was truly a major key in me finding my voice and becoming who I am today. If you need any help finding a counselor, please READ THIS POST. I also could not have done it without the support of my close family and friends. Please open up to someone who you trust and let them help you through this.

 

And I can’t stress this enough – if you are in a relationship where someone is hurting you physically or sexually, PLEASE SEEK SAFETY. Chances are that if those are happening to you, then you can relate to the other stories, too. I beg of you to take your children and find a shelter or a safe house where you can get help. Call the police – they are here to protect you, but they can’t help if you don’t go to them. It doesn’t matter what he said in the past. If it has happened once, studies show that it will happen again – and I just can’t bear the thought of one of you precious friends getting hurt again… or worse.

 

If there is one thing that I want to leave you with – please know that even though not many talk about these parts of our stories, there are so many of us on this journey together. Please don’t be afraid to reach out. You can find me on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest. You can also email me at justoneoftheboysblog@gmail.com.

 

You are loved. You are seen. And you are not alone.

 

*Hugs*

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How to Heal After Infidelity

How to Heal After Infidelity - Ways to cope, take care of yourself, and learning how to forgive on this journey to healing a broken heart.

 

Dear Friends,

 

I am always so touched by the messages and comments I receive here on the blog. I can’t tell you how much hearing from you has meant to me, and I am so honored to spend a little part of your day with you!

 

Today I’m sharing from my heart about a question that I hear pretty often… How do you heal after infidelity?

 

Each one of the messages that I receive about this pulls at my heart. I want to reach out and give each of you a giant hug. I would fix us some comforting tea, and then I would sit down next to you and share the ways that helped to heal my broken heart.

 

Just breathe.

 

When I found out about his unfaithfulness, my heart raced, my veins turned to ice, my stomach revolted, and I couldn’t breathe. Every time I discovered a new aspect of the betrayal, feared for my safety, or relived the hurt – it felt as if an elephant were sitting on my chest. I purposely let myself slow down enough to concentrate on breathing in for five slow counts, (1…2…3…4…5…), and then out for five slow counts, (1…2…3…4…5…), until the feeling passed. My world was crumbling and spinning around me, but when I spent a few minutes throughout the day on my breathing, I felt a little more in control of my situation.

 

Do the next thing.

 

Write out a list of routine activities you need to do today, and just concentrate on one thing at a time. Walk the dog. Read your little one a bedtime story. Take out the trash. Go to the grocery store. Pay the electric bill. Try not to focus so much on the unknown future – but continue on the little normal tasks in front of you. These might feel small and nearly impossible at the same time. You may feel easily distracted, but these will help to keep your body busy and your mind on track.

 

Take care of yourself.

 

Sometimes the best thing a mom can do for her family is to give herself grace. ~ justoneoftheboys.com

 

Shower. Brush your teeth. Fix your hair. Go for a walk at sunset with a friend. Eat something, even if you don’t fee like it. These might sound simple, but when you are truly wrestling with such devastating news, it can be hard to gather enough focus and energy for even something as routine as shaving your legs.

 

I know it doesn’t feel like it, but each time you do something to take care of yourself, it’s another step forward on your journey to healing.

 

Make an appointment to see your doctor.

 

I hate this part, Friend, but I can’t stress how important this step is in your healing. You need to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases. Call your doctor’s office and set up a time for you to be seen. Take a supportive friend with you, if you can. I was so lucky to have a friend there holding my hand, and a caring doctor who got me in that same day for a whole panel of tests.

 

Once you have the results, a large weight will be lifted off your weary shoulders. If the tests are negative, you can move forward. If something does turn up, you can be treated as early as possible, and then continue moving forward.

 

*I would also highly recommend requesting that your partner be tested for the same large panel of STDs, and have the results printed out for you to see. They may not like it, but you have every right to know if they brought anything concerning into your bed.

 

Allow yourself to grieve.

 

Be still and heal.

 

You’ve just been through so much, Friend. The news that your spouse has been unfaithful is one of the most devastating betrayals that you could ever experience. Take the time that you need to process what has happened. There will be so many moments when you will need to be strong, but it is okay for you to let yourself crumble sometimes. Just don’t stay down. Allow the tears to fall, but then get back up again. You really will smile again. You will get through this… I promise.

 

Explore healthy ways to vent your anger and frustration.

 

 

No good can come from taking, “a Louisville slugger to both headlights,” like the country song. As much as you might want to hurl obscenities or your wedding China at your spouse, I promise that it won’t help.

 

This is the time to remain calm – almost businesslike – around him. There are other ways to release some of the frustration, anger, and hurt that you are feeling. Write in a journal, write a letter to your husband or to the other woman, talk to a friend, go for a run, or join a kickboxing class. Lock yourself in a room and scream into your pillow. This way you won’t do something that you will later regret.

 

Surround yourself with love and support.

 

Seek out family and loving friends right now. Find a support group through a church. This is not the time to shut yourself off from the world. It’s hard to let down your guard and say the words out loud, but I think you will be surprised at the love and understanding that you will find. I will be forever grateful for the support of my family and friends. I couldn’t have done it without them.

 

Keep things as normal as possible for yourself and your kids.

 

Whether or not you talk to your kids about what is going on, they need stability. Keep your routine as normal as possible, and it will help you and them as you process and heal.  If your children know about the betrayal, please consider having them go to counseling where they can express and work through their confusion and hurt as well.

 

Chapter 5

 

See a counselor by yourself.

 

I’ve shared before how important therapy was in my healing. I grew so much during my time in counseling. Having someone comfort, guide, and challenge me on this journey was incredibly helpful.

 

I’ve also recently learned about peer counseling. Infidelity Counseling Network is a wonderful FREE resource for women who need to talk over the phone to someone who has been through it, too.

 

Attend counseling together.

 

Making an appointment for marriage counseling was one of the best things that I could have done, even though our marriage didn’t survive. A good couple’s therapist will listen, see through the hurt, and identify ways that the two of you can start to heal.

 

Your spouse will learn how to begin earning back your trust – cutting off communication with their lover, calling you throughout the day, being home when they said they would be home, reading books with you about healing and marriage, attending a support group for men with a lust addiction, and living transparently before you. This isn’t about punishing him – it’s about him respecting what you need as he works toward restoring broken trust.

 

Don’t rush. Work through healing slowly and intentionally.

 

As hard as it is right now, try to be logical and reasonable in your decisions without letting emotions get the better of you.

 

Don’t rush.

 

Don’t rush things back to “normal.” So much healing needs to take place, and that will take time, patience, and hard work by both of you.

 

Don’t rush into seeking separation or divorce either. Only time will tell if your marriage will survive. It takes two to tango, and to be restored, but you can do everything in your power to facilitate reconciliation. There is no rush when it comes to ending a marriage. Getting a divorce will not suddenly make everything better. Only healing, time, and forgiveness can do that – whether or not you stay together.

 

Don’t seek to get even.

 

You might feel desperate for them to know the searing pain they are putting you through, but do not look for comfort or revenge in someone else’s arms. It’s not worth it to bring more devastation into the relationship.

 

Forgive.

 

I believe this the most important way that you can heal after such a devastating betrayal. You can go down the list and check everything else off, but if you do not forgive, you will not feel whole again. Forgiveness is not a gift that you give to them – it is a gift that you are giving to yourself. Forgiveness releases you from their power over you. It frees you from the pain that bound you to them. Once those chains fall away, your heart will be free to heal once more.

 

Sometimes forgiveness is a daily practice – every time he comes to pick up your kids, when you see him with another woman, or even if he blames you for his affair – you can take in another deep breath and remind yourself that the worst is over. You have come so far on this road to healing, and you should be deeply proud of yourself.

 

And you are not alone… I promise.

 

Forgiveness

 

What about you?

 

Do you have any advice for our friends? Can you think of other ways that we can heal after such a dark time? I’d love to hear all about them in the comments below!

 

Can I ask you for a big favor? Do you know anyone who might be encouraged by this blog post? Would you please consider sharing it with them? I want nothing more than to help others to know that they are not alone in this journey.

 

As always, thank you so much for spending a little bit of your day with me. Your encouragement and comments mean the world to me! You can also find me on FacebookInstagramPinterest, and Twitter. I’d love to hear from you!

 

Until next time,

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

 

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Dear Ginger… Should I tell her?

Dear Ginger... Should I tell her that her husband is having an affair?

 

Dear Friends,

 

I am always so touched by the messages and comments I receive here on the blog. I can’t tell you how much hearing from you has meant to me, and I am so honored to spend a little part of your day with you!

 

Today I am answering questions that I receive often, but have been afraid to address here “out loud” until now…

 

Should I tell my friend that her husband is cheating on her?

 

Yes, I believe that she has the right to know what is happening in her marriage.

 

Infidelity is a malignant cancer. It will devour your relationship, your family, and you personally if it is not brought to light. When my Beloved and I discovered that he had a tumor growing on his kidney, it was frightening. There would be pain and a long road to healing for him, but we knew that we had to take action. After the surgery to remove his kidney, we learned that the tumor had been much worse than we had anticipated. It was Stage II cancer, and it was a blessing to have it removed before it spread to the liver, lungs, brain, and other parts of his body. Pretending like it didn’t exist was not a healthy option for us. In fact, it could have been deadly.

 

The same thing is true in relationships. I have also lived through the devastating effects of learning that infidelity had weaved its way into my first marriage. I had suspected his cheating, but I continued to bury my head in the sand of my own denial. A friend lovingly removed my blinders and helped me to see what was really going on. The evidence of his betrayal was crushing, but her friendship, engulfing love, and gentle way of guiding me to the truth was the greatest gift that she could ever give me.

 

Being aware of the unfaithfulness is the first step to your friend having a fighting chance to save her marriage. You can’t save what you don’t know is lost.

 

Should I write a letter? Or tell her in person?

 

Sadly, both my Beloved and I both have experience with this. While my friend told me over the phone, my Beloved’s friend gave him the news in person. We both agree that there really isn’t any one good way to tell a friend that their spouse is being unfaithful. Don’t stress too much over the method – but do realize that the most important thing is actually the tone in which you tell her. It’s all in the delivery.

 

I can’t stress this enough… Be kind. Come to her from a place of love. Your friend will soon find her marriage crumbling around her. Please be sure that your attitude is one of love, grace, and concern. Never slip into an “I-told-you-so” attitude. You may have thought this guy was a loser to begin with, and even if you had already expressed your dislike for him in the past, this time you need to approach her without any judgment. Just love.

 

Do I have to tell her? What if she doesn’t believe me?

 

No, you don’t have to tell her, but consider the analogy that I used before of infidelity acting like a cancer. If you knew that your friend had no knowledge of a deadly tumor in her body, would you tell her about that?

 

Not only does she deserve to know what is going on, it has now become a health and safety issue. This may not be the first time that he has engaged in an affair, and it might not be the last. She should have the right for the chance to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases, and to insist on him being tested. Please do not think that you are doing her a favor by not telling her.

 

I understand why you might not want to tell her – but I ask for you to consider what you would want if the situation were reversed.

 

What can I do to help her through this time?

 

Another way you can be there for her is to offer to help in any way that she needs. Offer to babysit while she goes to counseling. Be a listening ear when she needs to vent, and a comforting shoulder to cry on when it all feels like too much. Chances are that she won’t feel like eating, but you could bring her a meal or chocolate. Or flowers. She will need your friendship, love, and acceptance now more than ever.

 

Pray for her. Send her a card. A text message just letting her know that she’s on your mind will mean the world to her. One of the things a friend did for me was to let me borrow funny movies and TV shows on DVD. It was impossible for me to fall asleep in the beginning, but I was finally able to relax enough to drift off to sleep after watching a couple of her SCRUBS episodes each night. Eventually I smiled, a while later I could laugh again – and her thoughtfulness played a huge part in my healing.

 

I honestly couldn’t have done it without the love and support of my friends and family. They walked beside me, encouraged me, let me lean on them when I needed it, and celebrated my growth and healing along the way. I wouldn’t wish this devastating news on anyone – but it is my hope that through our willingness to stand in those dark places with our loved ones, that we can let them know that they are not alone.

 

What about you?

 

Do you have any suggestions for our friends? Can you think of other ways to help friends who has found themselves in this heartbreaking place? I’d love to hear them in the comments below!

 

As always, thank you so much for spending a little bit of your day with me. Your encouragement and comments mean the world to me! You can also find me on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter. I’d love to hear from you!

 

Until next time,

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

 

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5 Summer Must-Haves for a Busy Mom

Summer Must-Haves for a Busy Mom!

 

It’s getting warm outside! Summer is in full swing here in Kansas. Our family was been busy with VBS last week, and we will be heading to swimming lessons and playdates over the next couple of weeks. I love the time that we get to spend as a family during the summer, but it can be crazy with so many activities!

 

My Three Sons - Swimming

 

I shared with you last week how much I love my new Beeyoutiful mineral foundation. Love, love, love! I enjoy hearing about the things that people found – what makes life easier – that I thought I’d share with you a few more of my favorite things.

 

Here are some of my go-to, can’t-live-without, must haves for summer!

 

Summer Must Haves!

 

Dry Shampoo ~

 

I don’t know about you, but I don’t have time to wash, dry, and style my hair every day. Between getting up early to work out, meeting up with friends at the park, and spending afternoons at the local pools and splash pads, I need something to help my hair stay fresh, easy to maintain, and looking good between washings. Dry shampoo is the bomb diggity!

 

There are two brands that I love:

Suave Professionals Refresh & Revive is cheap, smells great, and gives my hair a little extra volume oomph! I can pick it up at Target, blow dry my hair after a sweaty workout, and spray it in before styling. It’s a great way to buy myself a little time until I can wash it later.

 

Big Sexy Hair Power Play comes in a powder form that you sprinkle in at the roots. I wait a few minutes before I rub it in and brush it through my hair. I love that this one leaves the rest of my hair feeling silky and clean so I can go about 2-3 days between washings.

 

Benefit Eye Bright ~

 

This has been called A NAP IN A STICK – and I love it! It’s the lightest shade of pink, and when I apply it to the dreaded dark circles on my face, it helps light to bounce off that area! I look so much more awake, alert, and refreshed when I am sporting my Benefit Eye Bright!

 

Beeyoutiful Mineral Makeup ~ Review and Giveaway!

 

 

OGX Argan Oil of Morocco  ~

 

Heavenly. That’s how I would describe this stuff! I use OGX’s Argan Oil shampoo and conditioner, too, but this penetrating oil makes my locks soft, silky, and so touchable. I can’t keep my hands out of my hair!

 

Future Hope Jewelry

 

I bought the small travel size at Ulta months ago, and I’m still working my way through it! I rub a small drop between my palms and run my hands through the ends and middle of my wet hair after a shower, and then I style it.

 

Beeyoutiful Mineral Makeup ~ Review

 

P.S. – It smells divine, too!

 

Pucker up! ~

 

I’ve become a big fan of having a pop of color on my lips! My sweet friend Heather gave me a pretty gold tube of Bésame Red Velvet for my birthday this year!

 

I tend to have dry lips, so I always wear a lip balm – even over my lipstick. My favorite is the Burt’s Bees “Red Dahlia” tube from Target. It adds just a hint of color to my lips, and looks great over a darker lip color as well!

 

My sister-in-law Amy gave me a new lip lavender mint balm from Honest Company, and I love it! It’s clear, but adds a nice little glow to my lips while keeping them soft and hydrated.

 

Red Lipstick

 

Sunglasses ~

 

Pulling weeds in the flower bed. Mowing the yard. A family walk around our neighborhood. Swimming lessons. Park play dates. Driving our kids all over God’s green earth for summer activities.

 

I couldn’t do it all without my shades! I keep these Kate Spades with me all the time, and it makes active summer life so much better. Plus, all you need is a little pop of color on the lips, and no on can tell if you have bags under your eyes from being up at night with a sick kiddo like I was last night, staying up too late reading a good book, or just didn’t have time to put on your Eye Bright!

 

Sunglasses and White Summer Dress

 

What about you?

 

What are some of your must- haves for summer? Do you have a favorite sunscreen? A fabulous lotion? A delicious summer drink? I’d love to hear all about it in the comments below!

 

Wishing you a fabulous week!

 

*Hugs*

 

~ Ginger

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Beeyoutiful Mineral Makeup…and GIVEAWAY!!! (Winner announced!)

And the winner is #21 – Heather! A big THANK YOU to each of you who entered our giveaway! I encourage you to check out Beeyoutiful, and let me know what you think! 🙂

 

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Psssst… Can I tell you something? I’ve been on a mission recently… A mission to gradually replace my old beauty products with ones that are more natural. Have you ever looked up the details of what is in our cosmetics? Yikes! It’s pretty scary! Even though I want to turn to more natural products, I don’t want to give quality or appearance. There’s a reason I wear makeup! *wink*

 

And that is why I couldn’t be more excited to share my latest discovery with you! Eeeeeeek!

 

Tinted moisturizer had been my go-to “foundation” for years now. I started out with Cover Girl, then eventually switched to Aveeno thinking that would be more natural – but it would sting and make my eyes water even when I lightly applied it to my face. That can’t be a good sign. Then I tried a pricier tinted moisturizer, but it really wasn’t anything to get excited about. I was still using it every day when I read this article by my friend Rosanna which introduced me to Beeyoutiful Mineral Makeup:

 

 

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She asked me if I would like to try a sample foundation kit from Beeyoutiful Mineral Makeup to review here on the blog, and of course I said yes! Rosanna is a busy wife and mom just like me – but she’s gorgeous, talented, and always looks amazing! I knew that I couldn’t go wrong in trusting her advice. Even though I still wasn’t sure that mineral makeup would work for me, I was willing to give it a shot!

 

I’m more of a medium tone, so they sent me an adorable fuchsia gift bag with EIGHT different shades of medium foundation to choose from and sample! EIGHT! And a small kabuki brush! One of the reasons that I’ve relied on tinted moisturizer for the last few years is because I’ve always had a rough time finding just the right shade of foundation to match my olive-ish skin – but Beeyoutiful was different.

 

(Ooops! I forgot to snag a photo of all eight samples… These were the remaining six shades that came with the sample package.)

 

Beeyoutiful Makeup Samples

 

I carefully watched Rosanna’s video on how to find your perfect match. There were so many shades that came in my sample package – but I chose the two that seemed like they might be the better matches, and I gave it a whirl. I was surprised to see that both shades matched pretty well! I ended up choosing the slightly darker shade because we were going into warmer months and my skin tans pretty easily when I’m outside in the summer.

 

Rosanna helped me put in my order – and a few days later this pretty package arrived in the mail!

 

Mineral Makeup

 

Once again, I followed along with the next video as Rosanna demonstrated how to use a kabuki brush to apply the mineral foundation. I loved that she also shows two other ways that we can apply the makeup. I had fun playing around with the different techniques, and over the next few days I tried all three!

 

Dry Brushing ~

 

First I tried the regular dry buffing method. Before trying mineral makeup, I had assumed that it would feel caked on, dry, and just gross, so I was surprised to see that it wasn’t any of those things! It felt light and fluffy – almost as if I wasn’t wearing makeup at all!

 

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Blending with a Moisturizer ~

 

Next I used a drug store moisturizer to blend with the mineral powder – and it was another great look! This created a little more coverage, so I will use this for a more dressed up, nighttime look. Even though my freckles weren’t as visible with this approach, I still didn’t feel like I was wearing heavy makeup. Oh, happy day!

 

Future Hope shirt

 

Airbrush Technique ~

 

This one is my favorite, and is now my go-to way to apply makeup each morning! I ran to Target and found NYX’s Dewy Finish Setting Spray to try. I look how it turned out! I like this look so much that I’m eyeing Beeyoutiful’s Lavishmint Hydrating Toner for when I run out – just like Rosanna uses in the video.

 

I love how this method evens out my complexion, but still light enough to show my freckles! I feel natural, as if I’m not wearing anything on my face – without scaring my friends and family!

Beeyoutiful Mineral Makeup ~ Review

 

My skin has never felt better!

 

I love that Beeyoutiful Mineral Makeup is a full disclosure company, and I can know exactly what I am putting on my body. At 34 years old, my skin has honestly never felt better. I’ve already told my Beloved that I’m excited to stick with this brand! I may get the slightly lighter shade of foundation to use as my summer tan glow fades this fall/winter, and I’m already looking at replacing my other cosmetics with Beeyoutiful’s fabulous choices!

 

It’s a GIVEAWAY!!!

 

Have you ever tried mineral makeup? Would you like to? Rosanna and the awesome folks at Beeyoutiful Skin have graciously offered to give away a FREE sample package and full-sized foundation to ONE LUCKY READER!!! This is the perfect opportunity to try something new! You can find your perfect shade and see for yourself how fabulous it is!

 

TO ENTER:

Just leave a comment below telling us your very favorite, can’t live without, gotta have it if you were stranded on a deserted island piece of makeup! Do you swear by a certain concealer? Are you a lipstick girl? Blush? Mascara? I’d love to know all about it!

 

The winner will be announced Friday evening!

 

Be sure to connect with Beeyoutiful on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to stay in the loop – sales, makeup tips, inspiration, and more!

 

Wishing you an exquisite week, my friends!

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

 

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Take a Little Time ~ 30 Days and Counting…

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So this is one of THOSE weeks where things aren’t going quite right. My computer ate this post that I had aaaaaalmost finished the other day, and my Beloved is needing to take my laptop with him during the day to school and work, so I’m trying to finally get this post out to you before another whole week flies by!

 

Let’s see…What’s been happening lately? I finished up my 30 day fitness goal!!! Just over a month ago I was really frustrated about my health and body image. I felt sluggish and squishy, my joints ached, and my clothes didn’t fit. I had fallen off the exercise wagon, and was dragging in the dust. I felt self-conscious around my Beloved, and I just didn’t want to feel like that any more.

 

I looked at the calendar and realized that it was exactly 30 days until my birthday, so I jumped into 30 Day Shred workout videos. I decided to plow on through, doing the workouts for 30 days in a row with no rest days.

 

I’ve used these videos in the past, but had forgotten just how brutal Jillian Michaels can be. I got up early, bounced around doing jumping jacks, high knees, push-ups, Supermans, and more. Before the first 10 days were up, I felt ready to move on to Level 2. And before the next 10 days were over, I felt as thought I needed the challenge of Level 3. By the time I was several days into the third level, I was bored and frustrated with being yelled at by a trainer on my TV at 0530 every morning.

 

On top of all that, my hip wouldn’t allow me to do a couple of the high-impact moves, so I had to find other ways to challenge my body during things like jumping lunges. I had hip surgery a year ago, (and knee surgery 16 years ago), and while I have regained so much strength and ability, I do have to be careful about some of those more jarring moves.

 

I was already seeing progress in my body. My shoulders were more defined. I could see muscle tone in my legs. My core was feeling tighter… Things were moving in the right direction, but I couldn’t stay with the Shred for those last few days. That’s when I decided to give PIYO a try. It’s a fast-paced Pilates/yoga regime where you use your own bodyweight to work on strength and flexibility. I’d heard great things about it from a friend who loves her PIYO workouts, and she thought it would be a perfect low-impact workout for my joints, while giving me the results I wanted.

 

I’m several days into it, and it’s been great! I love that there is a different workout to do each day, and I am drenched in sweat after each session! So far it has been pretty gentle on my hip, and I actually look forward to rolling out of bed at 0530 and having a little ME time before the rest of the house stirs! It took about three weeks for my body to adjust to getting up so early, but now it’s just part of my routine and I wouldn’t have it any other way. There’s something so invigorating about being up at such a peaceful hour.

 

I don’t have any pictures from my PIYO workouts, but I pretty much look like this when it’s over – in a good way! (via Pinterest)

Piyo

 

I’ve lost about an inch from my waist, about an inch and a half from my hips, an inch from each of my upper thighs, and an inch from each of my upper arms. My clothes fit better and better each week, and I’m actually starting to feel good about myself again! Isn’t the human body an amazing thing? The science behind how our bodies work, move, and strengthen is fascinating! I love having more energy to keep up with my guys, and seeing my body develop into a leaner, stronger woman is pretty awesome!

 

I still have a little muffin top, but I know that will come off with time. This last month has taught me so much about setting a goal, showing up no matter what, and seeing it through. Results will come! It’s not overnight, but I didn’t gain the extra fluffiness overnight either. I’ve been so encouraged by watching my physical body go through this transformation, and I’m excited to apply this in other areas of my life as well!

 

Last Week’s Goals ~

  • ~ Be up by 0530 every morning to get an early start on my day with exercise and quiet reading timeI set my alarm for 0600 on the weekends, so it was nice to get a little extra sleep before getting up early to tackle my day. 
  • ~ Continue with the 30 Day Shred and 30 Days of Yoga every morning, or find something more challenging to finish out my month of working on my health. But do not weigh myself. Check!
  • ~ Drink 3qt. of water each day. I slacked one day last week, and I could tell a difference. I didn’t feel as refreshed, and I felt parched the next day. I love adding lemon and lime juice to my pitcher of water every morning!
  • ~ Write two more blog posts this week.
  • ~ Find ways that I can encourage a friend this week.

 

This Week’s Goals ~

 

  • ~ Wake up at 0530 each morning to get an early and quiet start on the day.
  • ~ Continue working out each day with PIYO and activities with our boys.
  • ~ Drink 3 liters of water each day, along with coconut water to stay hydrated.
  • ~ Experiment with my new Beeyoutiful mineral foundation, and play around with other makeup ideas.
  • ~ Hop into bed by 9:30PM – early enough to read before falling asleep.

 

What about you?

 

I’m curious – as I’ve been thinking about all the things that have kept me from taking better care of myself, I’m wondering – What things are keeping you from taking a little time for you? Kids? Work? Crazy schedule? Are you like me and forgot how to take care of yourself?

One of the hardest parts of taking a little time for myself has always been coming up with ideas for how to take care of me. That’s why I’ve come up with a list of 101 FREE (or nearly free) Ways to Take a Little Time for US! And I’d be thrilled to send it to you! Subscribe to the free email updates from Just One of the Boys – just enter your name and email address below -and I’ll send you your FREE copy!

 

101 Ways

 

I’ll keep sharing even more of my progress on Facebook and Instagram this week with the hashtag #takealittletime, and I’d love it if you joined me. It would be way more fun with you! Let’s find a second to actually take a minute, SIT DOWN today, and just breathe. And don’t forget to drink water! You can even tell me how you are taking care of your body here in the comments or tag me in your photos! Let’s put our health, our hearts, and our heads back on the to-do list – and let’s start taking better care of ourselves today!

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

 

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5 Things About Absence Seizures…

5 Things You Should Know About Absence Seizures

 

This is a pretty exciting month for our family! Our middle guy is seizure-free, and is finally coming off of his seizure medication!

 

We’ve had quite a ride with Aiden, and today I wanted to share a little about his journey through epilepsy. I’ve talked with a couple of moms recently who are going through the early stages of testing and worrying about their own kids, and I thought I’d share a few things I wish I’d known about absence seizures when we were starting down this road…

 

1). Your child not ignoring you.

 

Aiden, did you hear me?

Aiden!

AIDEN!

 

Trying to get my five-year-old’s attention was like trying to talk to a guy who is watching football – no response whatsoever. His golden eyes would turn to blank stares that would last between 10 and 30 seconds, which actually seemed longer when we were practicing his reading or when he would stand still, as we would cross a busy parking lot.

 

Sometimes Aiden would rub his nose or make a little chewing/swallowing motion with his mouth, so I figured for a while that he was just off in La-La-Land during these little phases.The more often he zoned out, the more frustrated I became.

 

Aiden cowboy hat

 

 

I feel awful telling you that I would get angry with my little guy – for what I thought was blatant disobedience or disrespectfully ignoring me. I read parenting books and disciplined him while I tried to figure out what I was doing wrong as a mom.

 

It was when I noticed that they were happening more and more often that something clicked, and my “Mommy Intuition” began to awaken inside me. I read up on these periods of zoning out, and realized that he might be having petit mal seizures. I made an appointment with our family doctor, and we were referred to a pediatric neurologist.

 

 

2). The “Sleep Deprivation” part of testing is rough – but make it fun for them!

 

Before our first appointment with the neurologist, we were given our instructions for the sleep-deprived EEG he needed to diagnose/rule out seizures. Our little guy was so excited for the first test when he was allowed to stay up until midnight.

 

We have watched Spongebob, played games, and eaten snacks (without sugar or caffeine) to keep ourselves awake until midnight. Then it was time for a quick rest before I had to get him up at 4AM – and keep him up until his EEG appointment later in the day. Waking him up, and keeping the poor guy awake was always the hard part! Out came Ninja Turtle cartoons and games of Battleship and Connect 4 – Anything to keep our eyelids propped open until we saw the doctor!

 

Aiden-at-midnight

 

3). Don’t Be Alarmed in the doctor’s office – They TRY to Bring on Seizures.

 

When you and your little one arrive at the office sleep-deprived, they will start measuring and marking spots on his head where the electrodes need to be placed. It’s a scary to see your little one hooked up to so many wires, but help really is on the way.

 

Aiden-EEG

 

That’s when the technician will hand your kiddo a pinwheel and instruct them to blow continually on it for 3-5 minutes. Your little one will be loopy from being tired, and then they will hyperventilate while blowing the pinwheel – and it can bring on more absence seizures. It’s stressful to watch your child, knowing that there’s nothing that you can do for them while they are experiencing this test. Please know that your little one couldn’t be in a safer place right then, having their episode monitored and results read by a neurologist. Just hang in there!

 

After the hyperventilating part of the test is over, our office shut off the overhead lights and told Aiden that he could finally close his eyes. He was asleep almost instantly. The technicians tell the parents to avert their eyes for the next few minutes as a strobe light flashes over your child while they sleep. This is another way they try to stimulate seizure activity.

 

After a few minutes of rock concert lighting in the small room, the flashing stops and the test is over! It’s time to wake up your snoozing little one and wait until your visit with the doctor. Ours have usually been later that same day, so we could leave to get lunch or browse in a bookstore until it was time to go back, but I’ve heard that other parents have had to wait a few days to get their results back from a specialist.

 

4). Find fun ways to combat the taste of yucky medicine.

 

The most common medication given for absence seizures is HORRID in the liquid and pill form. Aiden used to complain that the liquid dose tasted spicy. It wasn’t until a drop landed on my finger once and I licked it without thinking that I realized just how disgusting it was. Poor guy! We found that letting him chase it with juice made the experience not quite so awful.

 

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When he wanted to switch to pill form, we took the neurologist’s advice and let him practice swallowing Tic Tacs. Even the pills smelled bad, so he sometimes swallowed his pill in a spoonful of applesauce or yogurt. Pretty soon he was a pro and could get it down with plain ol’ water, but he was glad for the creative ways we tried to get around such an unpleasant chore!

 

5). Find a balance of watching out for their safety, but letting them be kids.

 

I started watching him like a hawk. He wasn’t allowed to ride his bike in the street, but he could all he wanted on the driveway or sidewalk. I watched closely and stayed about an arms-length away when he was learning how to swim. I wanted him to have my arm to hold onto if he needed support during a seizure.

 

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I still let him climb trees, skateboard, jump on trampolines, and do pretty much whatever BOY thing he wanted to, but I always kept a close eye on him. The thing that was the most difficult for him was that he couldn’t play video games for the couple of years after his diagnosis because of the flashing lights they produce – positively devastating to this boy. He was a happy guy when he was later granted permission by his doctor for up to 30 minutes of video games each day!

 

Aiden in a tree

 

As we worked with the doctor to adjust his medication level, we saw that his episodes were happening less and less – and I was able to relax even more when he had his first seizure-free EEG. I’ve still watched him closely to make sure he wasn’t outgrowing his medication dosage, but all has been well! His last day on medication is later this month, and our whole family will be celebrating with him!

 

He put in the hard work – avoided caffeine, stayed away from video games, went to bed early regularly, endured blood work, put up with EEGs, and tried to have a good attitude through the whole mess. We are so very proud of our little guy, and we know you’ll be proud of yours as well!

 

I asked Aiden what he wanted to tell you about having absence seizures, and he gave me his list…

 

Aiden’s Top 5 Worst Things About Having Absence Seizures:

 

1). Not getting to play video games for TWO YEARS!!!

2). You can’t drink anything with caffeine.

3). Gross medicine. Yuck!

4). Not knowing what people said to you when you were having a seizure.

5). The headaches. Ouch!

 

What About You?

 

Do you have any other advice for families going through absence seizures? I’d love for you to share in the comments below!

 

Do you know a family that is dealing with absence seizures right now? Would you please do me a favor and forward them this post? Aiden and I would love nothing more than to pass on what we have learned to them!

 

Just remember that whatever storm or journey you are going through right now, you are not alone. I promise.

 

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

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Take a Little Time ~ One Little Thing

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Happy Monday, Friend! Can you believe that it’s April already? Are you finding ways to take a little time for yourself? Have you been staying hydrated this week?

 

Last time I set a goal for myself to do at least ONE thing for myself every day. I’ve set this goal before, but haven’t always crossed it off my list. Some nights I’d be dragging myself into bed and realize that in the busyness of the day, I hadn’t taken the time to do anything just for me. I was determined to change that last week! I’m a busy lady, just like you – with kids, activities, responsibilities, and good things pulling me in different directions. I’ve found that when I take just a little time for myself, I am a more rested and refreshed person. I’m energized, happier, and a better wife and mother.

 

Taking care of yourself doesn’t have to be a big production, expensive, or selfish… it’s just taking a few minutes to recharge so you can have a better outlook on life as you take care of the people and responsibilities in your life. It’s a whole new mindset that I’ve been working on just a little bit at a time.

 

Here’s how it went down last week:

 

MONDAY – I spent time playing my piano. It’s hard to believe that she’s been mine for almost a whole year!

 

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TUESDAY – I tried some new teal eye shadow! My friend Anna has an awesome series of beauty videos, and she recently shared a Pop of Color tutorial where she showed us how to add some color to the eyes to bring a fresh bit of color to the face! Our family has been very careful to not spend extra money over the last few months, so this was a nice treat for myself! 

 

blue eyeshadow

 

 

WEDNESDAY – I lit a candle and took the time to really enjoy the fresh scent… We were also under a tornado warning and I thought it would be best to have a candle lit in case our electricity went out while I was making a poster for Game Night at our oldest son’s school. Sometimes a girl’s gotta multi-task!

 

(We used spray adhesive to attach the Captain America poster and the superhero-inspired letters to the giant poster board. Perfect for the class game – a ring toss!)

 

Freedom Toss

 

 

THURSDAY – I wore my new coconut earrings from Future Hope. They are lightweight, unique, and go with everything! I love them so much, that I think we might have another Favorite Things giveaway soon! Stay tuned!

coconut earrings

 

FRIDAY – I met with a friend from our new church to talk about a book we are reading together, and I was excited to learn that I could join in helping her plan events for the ladies of our church! 

 

SATURDAY – My sister Natalie treated me to a sister-date and a pedicure on Saturday afternoon! I had the most relaxing time sitting in a massage chair and catching up with her while our tootsies got the royal treatment!

 

Before I went to see my sister, I stopped by one of my favorite consignment shops and TJ Maxx with the gift cards that my parents and siblings gave me as an early birthday present! I hadn’t been shopping for myself in so long, and it was fun to try on clothes and find something special just for me! I found a cute summer skirt and a vintage looking top. I still have plenty left on my birthday gift cards, and I can’t wait to go shopping again soon!

 

Speaking of shopping…Has this ever happened to you?

 

A Shopping Monologue -

 

 

 Last Week’s Goals ~

 

  • ~ Drink 3 qt. of water each day. I did this all but one day this week. I feel so much more refreshed and energized when I’m drinking enough water! I’m also drinking coconut water and eating bananas to make sure that I’m not running low on potassium. 
  • ~ Wake up at 0530 or before to get an early start on my day with exercise and a quiet reading timeCheck! Getting up early is becoming a routine for me, and it’s easier now – three weeks in – than it was in the beginning. 
  • ~ Complete 30 Day Shred and 30 Days of Yoga every morningYEP! I have finished three full weeks of both the 30 Day Shred and 30 Days of Yoga. I’m in Level 3 of the Shred, and while it’s not super enjoyable, I’m not finding it as challenging as I’d hoped. 
  • ~ Get back into writingI have been outlining blog posts to share with you soon. 
  • ~ Do ONE thing every day just for myself – maybe play the piano, read, light a candle, or take a walk.

 

This Week’s Goals ~

 

  • ~ Be up by 0530 every morning to get an early start on my day with exercise and quiet reading time.
  • ~ Continue with the 30 Day Shred and 30 Days of Yoga every morning, or find something more challenging to finish out my month of working on my health. But do not weigh myself.
  • ~ Drink 3qt. of water each day.
  • ~ Write two more blog posts this week.
  • ~ Find ways that I can encourage a friend this week.

 

Will You Join Me? ~

 

I’m curious – as I’ve been thinking about all the things that have kept me from taking better care of myself, I’m wondering – What things are keeping you from taking a little time for you? Kids? Work? Crazy schedule? Are you like me and forgot how to take care of yourself?

One of the hardest parts of taking a little time for myself has always been coming up with ideas for how to take care of me. That’s why I’ve come up with a list of 101 FREE (or nearly free) Ways to Take a Little Time for US! And I’d be thrilled to send it to you! Subscribe to the free email updates from Just One of the Boys – just enter your name and email address below -and I’ll send you your FREE copy!

 

101 Ways

 

I’ll keep sharing even more of my progress on Facebook and Instagram this week with the hashtag #takealittletime, and I’d love it if you joined me. It would be way more fun with you! Let’s find a second to actually take a minute, SIT DOWN today, and just breathe. And don’t forget to do something for your heart – get it pumping today! You can even tell me how you are taking care of your body here in the comments or tag me in your photos! Let’s put our health, our hearts, and our heads back on the to-do list – and let’s start taking better care of ourselves today!

*Hugs*

~ Ginger

 

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I'm a wife to my Beloved, mom of three boys, bookworm, survivor of a broken heart, and Kansas Girl. It is my desire to encourage you. No matter what storm you're going through right now, you are not alone. I promise.

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