I am always touched by the messages and comments I receive here on the blog. I can’t tell you how much hearing from you has meant to me, and I am so honored to spend a little part of your day with you!
Recently I have received messages from women who know someone going through a hard time. They want to know how to best help and be encouraging to their hurting friends. I am so blessed to have friends who have been with me through the darkest moments of my life. I could not have made it through those times without their love, support, prayers, hugs, phone calls, and just being there for me. My friends have inspired and lifted me up more than they’ll ever know, and because of them I want to share with you some ways that we can all be there for our friends – even in the rough times.
A phone call, a text message, an email – such easy ways that you can let your friend know that they are on your heart. Even better, a handwritten note is something tangible that they can hold in their hands and know that you are there for them.
Some friends might want to vent or share with you, but others will not. Struggles may be intensely personal, and we need to respect their need for privacy during this time. Follow their lead, and don’t push them to open up more than they are ready to share with you at the moment.
When you’re in a dark place, it’s hard to remember to thank or get back with the people who help or check in with you. A quick message from you may be exactly what your friend needed, but sometimes people forget to respond in the stress and busyness of that moment. And that’s okay.
Sometimes we need to go beyond the generic offer, “Let me know if I can do anything.” Do they need a babysitter for an hour or two? Perhaps taking them a meal would be a huge help. Lend them your favorite comedy or chick flick to lighten the mood. Sometimes having a cup of coffee and talking about anything else is just what the broken heart needs.
It really is a small world after all, and people can all too easily connect the dots. Be a true friend to them, and don’t talk to others about what was told to you in confidence. Not even in a vague concern or sharing prayer requests sort of way. This is not your story to tell unless you have been given their blessing to share it with others.
Many friends just want to vent or to know that you care. Don’t interject your opinion unless they ask for your advice. Instead, just concentrate on just being there for them.
When in doubt, take her chocolate. Chocolate makes everything better.
Do you have any other tips for our friends? What are some other ways that they can help and encourage their friends who are hurting?
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Until next time,
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