My lovely friend Tammy recently shared a list on Facebook – 25 Important Lessons Learned in 25 Years of Marriage – and I was so inspired and challenged by her advice, that I asked her if I could share them with YOU!
This is good stuff, friends!
1. Nourish your faith individually, as a couple, and as a family – it will be the one thing that will get you through everything
3. Let lots (and lots) of little things slide – perfection isn’t possible or necessary
4. Don’t let big issues consume your home – figure out a way to work through them
5. Dwell on things you appreciate about your spouse, not things you wish you could change
6. Remember relationships are valuable – things aren’t
7. You really do marry their family – be sure you love them too
8. Laugh a LOT
9. Take walks/hikes together
10. Play games and watch movies (or whatever you enjoy) as a family
11. Hug, kiss and say “I love you” often
12. Be each other’s best defender
13. Be a good caregiver
14. Work together – especially when you are getting ready to entertain or have yard work to do
15. Don’t let him do your laundry – this one I learned in the first week of marriage (bless his heart, he WAS trying to help and I’m sure all the small people that shop at Good Will appreciated my sweaters)
16. Encourage their relationships with other family members
17. Talk (and listen) to each other a lot
18. Present a united front with your child/children
19. Respect things that are important to the other person, even if they’re not important to you
20. Find a way to get away from “it all” – something as simple as a picnic in the country and flying kites can be a God-send
21. Be supportive of the other person’s job and interests
22. Don’t smack talk the other person’s team when you live in a house divided, which neither of us has ever done (at some point their team will beat yours – hopefully you won’t be freezing your fanny off at Arrowhead stadium when this does happen)
23. Find a good balance between doing things you enjoy together, doing things the other person likes even if you don’t, and being individuals
24. Don’t succumb to the debt monster and if you do, work hard (together) to defeat the beast
25. Continue to dream and plan for the future as a couple and dream big
My Beloved and I are still in the transitional newlywed stage. After the end of my first marriage, my heart’s desire is to tenderly cultivate and care for our marriage and family unit. Her advice is something that I am taking to heart – and will be pondering in the days to come for sure!
What lessons or tips YOU have learned in marriage? What would you add to the list? Nothing would make me happier than hearing your advice for other newlywed (or not so newlywed) couples out there! Let’s compile more advice to make an even bigger list of lessons learned from marriage! Let’s encourage each other today!
I am so thankful for each of you spending a little bit of your day with me!
*Photo credit – Sledd Photography (The beautiful couple is my lovely sister-in-law & brother-in-law!)
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