I’m Not Just a Mom…

I'm not just a mom... Journeying to find out who I was made to be! From justoneoftheboys.com

Something interesting happened to me today…


“Are you an artist?” the lady at Kohl’s asked me.


I laughed and thanked her, but no, I’m not an artist.


I glanced down at my loose-fitting boyfriend jeans, my white tee that is older than at least two of my kids, and thrifted jacket. My mommy uniform – washable and comfy. Did I have paint on my clothes? Marker on my face?


“Are you sure you’re not an artist?”


Nope. I wish!


“Then what do you do?” she pressed as she rang up the leggings that I was buying on sale.


Reflexively, I almost went with my usual response: I’m just a mom… But for some reason, today I stopped.


Um, actually…I write. My voice was shaking because I’ve never once said that out loud to anyone.


“That’s the same thing, Girl! You’re an artist! I knew you were a creator – I could tell by your shoes!”


I glanced down at my feet – the only pop of color in my outfit today is the deep aqua of my TOMS wedges that I found on clearance last spring.


I could tell by your shoes...


“Only an artist would pair those shoes with your outfit. It’s who you are! Be proud of it, Girl!”


I’m sure my face was flushed as I thanked her for making my day – but I should have thanked her for waking me up and confirming some things that I have been hearing and learning lately. As I shared with you before, I have been writing for as long as I can remember. I might wish to be a painter or songwriter or pastry chef or inspirational speaker, but that isn’t who I was made to be.


I could have worn so many other pairs of shoes today – Converse sneakers, flip-flops, running shoes, boots, and heels – but I didn’t. I chose these shoes, and that said something about me. A total stranger was able to pinpoint that I am an artist – just from the two seconds that it took me to pick out my shoes this morning. Who I am is oozing out of me, and I’m betting that it flows out of you, too…even when you don’t realize it.




I need to learn to not fight who I am, and not shove her into a dark corner to forget about that part of me. I’m not just a mom. I’m starting to see that I’m so much more than that…. and so are you! You’re more than a mom. You’re more than a wife, single mom, divorced, or grandmother. Are you, too, an artist? Are you a caretaker? Are you a dreamer? Are you a nurse and teacher to your little ones at home? Are you ambitious and go after what you want in life? Are you a loyal friend? Are you passionate about helping others?


I’m 33, and I’m weary from not knowing who I really am…but I’m learning and growing. Baby steps! Let’s start digging deeper together and discovering who we really were made to be. I can’t wait to continue on this journey alongside you!


Who are YOU, my friend? Does this resonate at all with you? I’d just love to hear all about it!


*Love and hugs*

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  • Jacqui says:

    I loved this post! It resonated with my own thoughts about “who I am.” Of course motherhood is a wonderful, respectable, calling. I have embraced it fully, but it’s not the only role the Lord has called me to. One of my roles is communicator. Your post reminded me that it’s okay to own up to the other roles I’m called to along with a mother. This doesn’t make me any less committed to motherhood. Thx!

    • ginger says:

      Yay!!! Thank you so much, Jacqui, for your encouraging words! You are SO right – embracing our other roles doesn’t make us any less committed to being a wife and mother! It probably makes us better at them! 🙂 *big hugs*

  • Tammy says:

    Loved this!

  • I’m hearing you, Ginger! I’m still figuring out who I am in this blogging world. I feel like I’m a counselor who writes. Not a writer. Is there a difference and does it really matter?

    You’ve put some good questions on the table. I guess when all is said and done, I want my faith to define me, not what I do in any specific season.

    Thanks for making me think!


    • ginger says:

      Linda, your post made me smile! I was so encouraged to hear that the post made you think! I’m right there with you, trying to figure out who I am in this blogging world – so I’m on this journey with you! *hugs*

  • Blogging has taught me I’m a foodie bookworm with a tendency to ramble when I write. I usually write when I am overly excited about something whether it’s a book, a new recipe or something from the heart. I wish I could say I was an artist but my brain is more triggered for the methodical, planning, type A mathematical type and blogging is getting me out of my introverted shell.

    Love the shoes and that you’re happy just being you!

    • ginger says:

      Love that you’ve found some things that you’re excited about – and really inspired that you know who you are! Maybe I’ll get there somewhere down the road! 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing, Tanya! 🙂

  • Alysha says:

    Oh, Ginger, I absolutely love this post. I love it because, like you, I have been fearful of declaring who I am to the world let alone accepting it myself. A couple weeks ago I began reciting affirmations in the morning and one of them was, “I am a writer.” It changed the way I viewed my hobby. It’s not just a hobby, it’s not just therapeutic, it’s a passion and God has called me to not only write, but to share. I am currently designing an e-course over at http://www.anintentionalfuture.com and one of the themes is “Declare Yourself”. I just want to say thank you again for declaring yourself. God used the checker at Kohl’s to confirm what He already knew about you – that you have a gift!

    • ginger says:

      Yay!!! I can’t wait to learn more about your e-course!!! Congratulations! I’m with you – writing has been a hobby and therapeutic – but that’s not all it is. It’s a calling and passion! 🙂 *big hugs*

  • What a beautiful encounter! Good for her for speaking up when she thought something encouraging! And good for you for being brave enough to say “writer” out loud. I find it so much harder to tell people I’m a writer than to tell them I’m an editor, or a mom. Writing was my first passion, and I’m working my way back into it after a fear-fuelled hiatus, plus decades of hiding who I am because I was taught to always smile, to never shout or do anything else that might draw attention to myself, and to use only small, short, well-behaved checkmarks 😉 (these days my checkmarks are as wild and unruly as I can make them. I’m a rebel)

  • Keri says:

    I just wanted to say THANK YOU for this post today (as I’m listening to my toddler scream in the background) I needed to hear it to realize that there are soo many more things to me than being just a Mom and I need to not push myself into the background! Thanks for the reminder

  • Hi Ginger! Life has been crazy lately and I haven’t had much spare time to read (or write!!) blogs lately, but I’m SO GLAD I stopped by to read yours today. I absolutely loved this, and that cashier was right — you ARE an artist! I think that’s the way I feel about writing… sure, I write all the time for work, and I blog, but am I really a writer? Nah… Geez, I’ve really got to quit that, don’t I?!

    (PS. those shoes are awesome.)

  • Mark Allman says:

    I knew you were an artist the first few blogs I read by you… not only how you write but how you remodel stuff and re-purpose things. Look at that star and that bathroom just to name a couple!

    An artist you are: writer, craft person, designer……

  • Claudia says:

    Hi Ginger!
    I sent you a private email about this post via your Contact link. Let me know if you didn’t receive and I’ll send again. Thanks so much for this blog! Love it!

    • ginger says:

      Hi Claudia! I was so happy to read this comment, but I’m afraid that I never received your private email!!! I am so very sorry! I’m looking into the problem with the Contact page right now. I would love to hear from you! My email is justoneoftheboysblog@gmail.com if you can email me there. 🙂 Thank you so much for asking – so I can try to fix it! 🙂

  • […] that the writer inside flows out of me, whether I know it or […]

  • Jesenia says:

    Love this post Ginger and love the shoes. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  • siobhan says:

    Dear Ginger, thank you for writing this post. When I became a mum, I have been struggling with my own identity and trying to get back to who I am. I loved to travel and spend time with friends but having left work to be a stay at home mom, meant no money for either. Then this last weekend I went on a hen night with some fantastic girls and it honestly has helped me to look at life differently. I put on make up and did my hair today. Just for me. I have been filled with creative flow and finally feel likeim on a path of discovery. Your post just affirmed it. I am an artist!

  • Wendy says:

    I loved this! Thank you. I’m also not just (fill in child’s name mom). I too am a writer. I am an artist, I draw too. I love to try new things. I have recently learned kayaking & archery. I am an explorer. I work part time but hopefully will stay at home maybe sometime after I get married. Yes, I am more than just a mom like you.

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