In Her Shoes is a series written by readers to give us a glimpse into their lives – to see what it is like to walk in their shoes. I’m extra thrilled to introduce you to my friend Kallie Kinchen because today is Military Spouse Appreciation Day! You’re going to learn why Kallie is my military wife hero! Let’s join our friend as shares with us what it is like to walk in her shoes. ~ Love, G
A day in the shoes of a military wife is not like Hollywood would have you believe, it is much less glamorous. My day is pretty much the same as the majority of working wives with two children; the only difference is my husband is in the military. I am not Superwoman, I just happened to fall in love with a man who is serving in the military and we have an amazing family.
During our 8 ½ years of marriage we have traveled some tough roads, but amazingly we have survived the journey thus far. I always knew when I married Clint that the military would offer great benefits, but I didn’t fully grasp what it would entail. Because of the Air Force, Clint and I have been able to live and travel throughout the world, Clint has been able to complete his degree, and we’ve met many great friends along the way. However, those times when duty calls, even the best laid plans can turn to havoc.
When Clint and I were first married, I found it difficult to plan vacations, get togethers… even dinner. The first thing that would come to my mind would always be, “Will Clint be here?” After a few TDYs and deployments, I came to the realization that no matter important I felt an event was, the military would come first.
This was especially true in September 2012, when I was pregnant with our son and Clint was deployed. I was due to have my son on September 16 and Clint wasn’t anticipated to be back home until the day before. Clint and I made arrangements to ensure someone was with me in Japan in the event that Oliver came early, but more so in the event that Clint came home late. Thank goodness we did! While I desperately wanted my husband to be by my side when I had our son, I knew deep down that it wasn’t the plan that the Lord had made for us. Oliver was born on September 6, 2012, 9 days before Clint came home from his deployment.
(When Clint met Baby Oliver for the first time)
At the time, I didn’t quite grasp the entirety of it. I had just given birth to my son in a foreign country while my husband was deployed, and then drove myself home the next day. I suppose the reality is that my story is not so much different from the many other military wives out there, no matter the rank, service, job, etc. I did what I had to do to ensure my family was safe while Clint was deployed, and that he would have no reason to worry about us because everything was under control back home. That is what being a military wife is about, taking care of the home front so that your husband can focus on the current task he has been given, no matter how big or small.
Today, we are so blessed that Clint has been given the opportunity for 3 years at a station where we will be together without any deployments. To have my family together for these 3 years is the most amazing feeling. When I come home in the evenings from working, my Airman is home with me and our 2 amazing children.
Yet on these same nights there are many military families still praying for loved ones overseas, being introduced to newborns for the first time via Skype, or finding out that a deployment has been extended… yet again… it’ll just be a little bit longer. These are the military families that I always find myself thinking about, because we have lived it. What story is being told right now, by a family I don’t know, that the world will never hear about, by a superhero mom doing amazing things for her family?
Looking back through the years, I can honestly say there has been more good than bad. When all is said and done I can say, “I’m proud to be a military wife.” It just might be the most prestigious Sorority of them all.
To read more encouraging stories, or if you are interested in sharing your own story, please go to the In Her Shoes tab near the top of the page. I love learning about the people in this series. Connecting with others seems to make the world feel not quite as big and scary. We’re all in this together. I can’t wait to hear from you, to read your stories, and learn more of what it is like to walk in your shoes.
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