Seeing Pink?



“Mommy, how old does a lady have to be to have a baby girl?”

“Um…A lady can have a baby girl whenever God gives her a baby girl.”

“But how old do YOU have to be for God to give YOU a baby girl, Mommy?”

No, I’m NOT expecting, but that recent conversation with our 5 year old son, Quinn, really made me stop to think about the possibility of life with a little girl someday. The boys have even taken to praying for a sister on and off for a year or so.

The last 10 years, the entirety of my mothering life, has been all about boys. Tonka trucks, Lego creations, earthworms, basketball, and Spiderman have wiggled their way into my daily routine. To be honest, I may not know (or care) about the difference between a Storm Trooper and a Clone Trooper. I may throw away random Pokèmon cards that I find left out when they should be put away. I may not understand the appeal of Wimpy Kid books…but I love having boys.

Can I let you in on a little secret? Girls have always kind of scared me. Maybe that’s because I am nerdy tomboy, myself. I never really felt like I belonged, almost as if I never knew how to be a girl. I’m nearly 33 years old, and sometimes I feel like I’m still trying to figure it out. I guess I’m a little afraid of letting down a daughter that I don’t even have. Silly, I know.

get boys. All my boys need is an open area in which to wrestle, a couple of Nerf guns, or a driveway where they can play some dodgeball…and they are happy as can be! They need food, love, and consistency. That’s pretty much it.

Of course, I also like the idea of dressing a little mini-me in cute boots and ponchos. I love the thought of introducing someone to all of the wonderful stories that captured me as I was growing up – Nancy Drew, Laura Ingalls Wilder, and Anne Shirley have always felt like kindred spirits. Who wouldn’t want to share those things?

 My Beloved and I have often talked of the possibility about having a baby together someday, after he is out of the military and we can finally live together. We have even bounced potential names back and forth for future kiddos. I know that he would be an amazing father to a little girl, just as he has been a wonderful dad to my boys – that doesn’t give me one ounce of reservation. My hope is that I would be a good enough mom.

Maybe someday we’ll see blue once again, or maybe we’ll finally have the answer to Quinn’s question and see pink. Whatever happens, expanding our family or staying put with three growing boys, I never would have imagined the amount of love that I have for our manly munchkins. Ever. I’m guessing that I would feel the same way if we were to ever see pink. Maybe that is how a mother’s heart was made to work.

Do you know that saying of how when you have more than one child, the love you have doesn’t subtract – it multiplies? Yeah…it has been that times a million. And pink or blue, I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

My Littlest Gift -

*Photo credit ~ NZ Portraits by Joanne. The top photo was taken on Quinn’s 1st birthday. The bottom photo was taken when Camden was 4, Quinn was one week old, and Aiden was 2 years old. I love those little feet!

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  • You are a fantastic Mother! And a little girl would be incredibly blessed to call you Momma. 🙂 After having two boys and then a girl it is definitely different. But in such a good way! I can’t wait to see what the future brings for you and your hubby!

  • Ana says:

    I completely understand–I love having all boys, and don’t know what I would ever do with a girl! We thought about being surprised by our last baby’s gender, but people were so outspoken and opinionated with “I bet you’re really hoping for a girl, aren’t you?” that we went ahead and found out–I didn’t want to have to deal with rude comments being all hormonal after delivery. Your boys are so cute, I love the pictures of them! 🙂

    • ginger says:

      What a smart decision – find out so you don’t have to deal with those difficult comments later! I always wanted to know what I was having – I can’t stand that suspense! 🙂 Thank you so much for your kind comments – such an encouragement to me!

  • Mark Allman says:

    I have no doubt you would do pink well. And if a little girl comes along I know she would be blessed to have you as a mom just the way you are.

  • I would love to have a girl, but… the thought of 3 kids (girls or boys) kinda terrifies me. Plus, I’ll be 35 in a few months and I have a little baby, so I can’t even think about a third for a couple of years. Hmm…

    • ginger says:

      Sarah, my third baby was my easiest baby by far! He was so good-natured and had an easy temperament! But I really do understand your feelings – I was so scared until we got into our groove and I found that it was actually a very natural transition! *hugs*

  • Misty Maki says:

    Our family is full of boys. I have 2 mini men’s and 6 nephews. I sometimes daydream about what it would be like to have a girl in this family. I, like you “get boys” .

    • ginger says:

      Hiya Misty! I am so happy that you stopped by! I loved exploring your blog – the design is gorgeous! I’m so glad to “meet” a fellow boy-mom and blogging friend! 🙂

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