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Temporary Duty Yonder ~


“Do you really have to go?” I already knew the answer, but I couldn’t hold back my desperation any longer.

My Beloved had been given his TDY orders – Temporary Duty Yonder – he had to go away for work for a while. Such is life in the military.

“He won’t be able to come home for Thanksgiving,” I had told our boys.

“Then there will be nothing to be thankful for!” wailed one of our sons while the others pouted.

I had explained to them that we really did have so very much to be thankful for – he would be safe and sound on this side of the world on Thanksgiving, and not flying over the mountains of Afghanistan looking for bad guys. They agreed with me, but our moods were still pretty low.

“How will we get our Christmas tree this year?” It is a favorite tradition of the boys’, to go pick out our Holiday tree with their Daddy Joe, but I did my best to reassure them that I would find us an awesome tree that we could decorate to surprise him when he gets home.

“Be sure to help your mom. I love you guys. I’ll miss you!” He hugged each of our boys, and then he turned to me. With a tender kiss, we said goodbye. The boys and I watched, waved, and blew kisses as he started on his journey.

He was heading to his temporary change of duty, and I turned away from the window to face mine. He was trading in his flight suit for his ABUs (Air Force camouflage), and it was time to wear more than just my mom hat once again. It was time to be both mom and dad, housewife and mechanic, homework checker and handyman, Christmas cookie baker and fireplace chimney sweep. There were leaves to rake, Christmas gifts to buy, and a family to raise.

Thanksgiving encompasses so much more than just one day. As much as I would miss him when we sat down to a turkey dinner, every beat of my heart would be mindful of the blessings that we had received that year. We really did have so much to celebrate and to be thankful for in our lives.

Blog bootsMy boots may look a little different than his, but it is time for me to pull myself up by their straps and get to work, just like him. I love that we’re a team, my Beloved and I. We’re in this crazy, beautiful, military, exhausting, blended, and wonderful life together. When he is away, he wishes that he could be here at home, and I wish more than anything that he could be here with us, too. Someday that wish will come true. There will come a long-awaited day when all TDYs, PCSs, and deployments will be behind us – and how I long for that day! Until then, I am incredibly thankful that the kindest and most selfless husband, stepdad, son, brother, friend and Beloved is out there standing guard for you…and for me.

I know that I am not the only one. To all of the other military wives out there – and to those who will be pulling double duty and keeping the hearth warm for their beloveds this Thanksgiving, my prayers are with you and my heart salutes you.




* Top photo is courtesy of Joanne Funk

* Linking up to Women Living Well Wednesdays

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  • Jan says:

    Very nice post! It’s so easy to feel the warmth and love of your family in your writing. I’m not a book worm, but I do look forward to reading your posts!

    • ginger says:

      Aww! You just made my day 🙂 Thank you very much for your sweet encouragement – and for sharing my posts on FB! Your friendship means so much to me! 🙂

  • Mark Allman says:

    I hope it goes well. I know when someone in a family serves in the military then in reality the whole family serves as what he does affects us all.

    • ginger says:

      Hi Mark! You are so right – I have a whole new appreciation for military families – past, present, and future! I am so proud to be a part of one, but I am in awe of some of the military wives and families that I know! They are so strong! Thank you for your kind comments – I know that we’ll be fine, and even stronger on the other side. 🙂 It’s good practice for the next deployment!

  • Pull yourself up by your bootstraps, girl, but don’t be afraid to ask for help, either. That’s a lot of responsibility for anyone to shoulder, and wearing yourself down too much doesn’t do anyone any good.

    • ginger says:

      Yes, Ma’am! 🙂 What a great encouragement your note was to read today. Yep, just gotta pull myself up and keep going, while being willing to admit when I need help. That is not the easiest thing for me to do – I just listened to Brene Brown talk on this recently – but I think God is allowing me to be in situations where I get to practice this, as much as I am not a fan. 😉 Thank you so much for your sweet comment – it was exactly what I needed to read today!

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